[Anjae]

Me either Ange 

This story seems to be a bit too much of a trigger, doesn't it, In It?

[in it]

Yeah..it does.

I don't think its due to Depp being a huge celebrity,but will I not watch any of his movies because of it? Probably.
A man who harms a woman isn't a man.No matter what shes done.
A man walks away.

[Velika]

I believe her that she was abused. Why would she make that up, she could easily divorce him and receive alimony if that was her goal.

Once wife is out of the picture, does OW typically bear brunt of anger? Is this typically a volatile relationship?

[Anjae]

In It, I don't think it is that. Mel Gibson is also a huge celebrity. And there has been other celebrities. Not certain what it is this time, that makes it such a trigger.

Men in MLC are a mess. Famous or not famous. They do things they would not do otherwise. It is really strange to realise our own husbands are those men who hit their wives. And probably, some of our MLCers are also amazed they have become those men. If they remember at all what they did. Some don't seem to.

Velika, I'm not certain if it is that easy in California to obtain alimony with a marriage that only lasted 15 months. Plus, I'm fairly certain that if she had the pictures, any lawyer would advice him to deal and give her a very nice sum plus alimony. Of course he is having a MLC, so he may had not listen to his lawyer. Who happens to be a top Hollywood  divorce lawyer, you would most certainly not want this mess in the open. It is hard to see how any of this serves her client.

Once wife is out of the picture, does OW typically bear brunt of anger? Is this typically a volatile relationship?

I don't know. Some relationships with OW are more volatile than others. They will always been strained relationships, given the way they started.

[in it]

More than likely..men like this do not face their own issues.They have to have somone to blame it on.
The ex and the exow chewed each other up and spit each other out in about 11 months.Same stuff. Verbal fights and lies and ego issues.The ex didn't lay a hand on her because he knew she had nothing to lose and would have had him arressted.

[kikki]

 

Once wife is out of the picture, does OW typically bear brunt of anger? Is this typically a volatile relationship?

From Anjae:

I don't know. Some relationships with OW are more volatile than others. They will always been strained relationships, given the way they started.

And if you read RCR's articles on affair dynamics and the OW, there's a strong chance that an OW is borderline personality disordered, or has some of those traits. Who else would knowingly step into a relationship with a married man?

If you put your cellphone over your cheek and eye (as per the marks on the photo) you'll see that the eye is well protected, just as nature intended. 
You'd need a fist to punch the eye socket for it to be bruised.  And this isn't bruising.  Bruising after 4-5 days is green/blue/purple/black.

The filing came five days after Heard filed for divorce.

Depp's attorney, Laura Wasser, declined to comment. Depp is in Portugal for a performance with his band Hollywood Vampires.

Wasser wrote in a court filing that Depp was out of the country and would agree to a mutual stay-away order. She contended that Heard's filing, along with requests for financial assistance from the actor ``appears to be in response to the negative media attention she received earlier this week after filing for divorce."

Heard's divorce filing cited irreconcilable differences and saying the pair separated the day before. She is seeking spousal support from the Pirates of the Caribbean star, but Depp's response filed Wednesday asked a judge to deny the request.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/entertainment/celebrities/80492569/amber-heard-accuses-johnny-depp-of-domestic-violence--reports?cid=facebook.post.80492569

[Velika]

I'm worried a lot about this given I have a seven year old and my husband's OW is moving to the area.

If he is exposed to volatile relationship or personality disordered individual it could be very damaging.

Well, Vanessa Paradis is gorgeous, talented actress, handsome boyfriend who aged naturally -- so she is probably glad to be out of the picture at this point.

[kikki]

Agree Velika, you will not be the only person seeing some very strange behaviour from your husband.  Some are better at keeping the mask on in front of others, but it eventually slips.

You really do have to be a mama bear where your young son is concerned.  He only currently has one sane parent.  And that is you.

[Velika]

I was reading the thread on MLC in the news and got to thinking, there are some really beautiful, lovely, and talented famous LBS.

In particular I was thinking of Vanessa Paradis, ex of Johnny Depp, I know there are others too who dealt with this and now seem great while their husbands look wrecked.

This cheered me up a little. I read Gwen Stefani said how unjust it was she had to split custody with her ex after he cheated on her. I felt really touched. People don't often talk about this.

Anyhow, this thread may already exist but if you can think of a famous LBS who is now doing well, maybe it can be some inspiration.

[Anjae]

OW could also be, or have traces, of histrionic, narcissist or antisocial. http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_jealousy-and-envy.html

I don't think OW would necessarily be any of those things. But like RCR says, once into the dynamics of such relationship, such traces could be exhibited. OW could be in a MLC of her own.

I don't like to say people, including OW, have this or that mental illness, personality disorder, because even for a psychiatrist if is often difficult to know what a person suffers from. And it is known that the ambient we live in, and the relationships we have, can alter how we behave. 

Velika, it is almost impossible to prevent a MLCer from being exposed to a volatile relationship. The relationship with OW, whatever its nature, is very damaging.

Kikki, what is the technical/medical name of what Amber's photo show? I know bruises is green/blue/purple/black, but that red/pink marks must have a name. Do you think Amber staged it? Or could it be that Johnny really hurt her, but not when she said he did? It is not hard to conceive that a man in MLC, who drinks too much and whose mother was dying (or has already died) may had lost it.

Vanessa most not be pleased at all with any of this. She has children with Depp.

Somehow, and for whatever reason I still have not managed to gather, this stuff is truly upsetting me. My mother had neighours whose sons, who were alcoholics and addicts, would hurt the parents. I have called the cops more than once on them, and it never upset me like this.