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I am curious if anyone elses MLC has wanted to be intimate, and if so, what did you do?

In the beginning
9 (52.9%)
Never
5 (29.4%)
Occasionially
2 (11.8%)
On memorable occasions
0 (0%)
Always, has never stopped
1 (5.9%)

Total Members Voted: 17

Voting closed: January 25, 2011, 05:36:04 AM

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Author Topic: MLC Monster Intimacy with your MLC'er

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MLC Monster Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#30: May 13, 2011, 07:42:53 PM
Damn, I 've almost gone that many years with out it!
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#31: May 13, 2011, 07:47:36 PM
Tsunami

Even though I'm a dude, I can't answer the question as to whether your husband would have the nerve (or even ability?) to have sex with someone else or not due to that issue.

One thing we all know, which is one of the key reasons we are on this forum, is that the value system of our spouses/ex-spouses is a bit off kilter during MLC.
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#32: May 13, 2011, 07:51:09 PM
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or not due to that issue.


DGU, you almost had me falling out of my chair.  I thought I had read...

Or not with a dude for that issue!  LOL

Watch out, I'm feeling better again, and being fiesty tonight!
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#33: May 13, 2011, 08:00:56 PM
My ex had issues so he got a prescription to help him but he didn't get it filled for at least a month before leaving me. I later realized it wasn't for being with me but OW! I threw it up in his face when I discovered his affair.
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#34: May 13, 2011, 08:01:16 PM
BTW Tsunami, you say your from the south but you wrote Clorox instead of Purex?
You have been gone a long time. ;)
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#35: May 13, 2011, 08:05:22 PM
Rebel,

I've been in the South my entire life and it's always been Clorox!
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#36: May 13, 2011, 08:21:47 PM
ED issues.... he tried to blame it on the vasectomy.... but it is depression. 40's is way too young unless there is a medical issue... it's just rare....

Mine got a prescription as well... tried EVERYTHING, including Boston Medical Group which involved injections.... I went along with it, but he was DESPERATE and it hurt me to think he was mired in chasing his tail that way... I firmly (sorry) believe it is depression ALONE that causes the ED.

Now, if he wants to take a pill with me, I'm fine with it, but there have been times when he was totally relaxed, mentally, and there was NO need for the pills... and I'm the old ball and chain, so I knew it wasn't the "newness" of the "new" and nothing special going on... just sayin'
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#37: May 13, 2011, 09:16:12 PM
Yes, I have been gone a while; Seattle for eight, then Guam for five.  Jacksonville, in between those two for two years.

RY - It's my favorite stock!  Hey, it's the only product known to kill AIDS! 

LG, it was going on at 30, when we got married. He has vascular issues and depression; which I feel are the cause, including low self-esteem which I have noticed our whole marriage.  He took meds for depression, then blamed that on the ED, which may have been somewhat true.

Also, LG, you can get yeast infections taking antibiotics too.  Hope that takes some blame off husband just in case you want to slap the sheet out of him.

DGU, that value system comment is what worries me.  That was one of the reasons he was a good man to marry, you did hear that was didn't you?
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#38: May 13, 2011, 09:25:29 PM
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Keep in mind that, as part of the MLC process, the value system goes from "is" to "was".  Then as the process winds down, the value system generally looks much more like it was before the crisis.
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Re: Intimacy with your MLC'er
#39: May 13, 2011, 09:45:30 PM
JFYI, I rarely take antibiotics... it was simply the transfer of microbes from one person to another...

Anti-depressants typically cause sexual dysfunction as a side effect...

Then, it is a vicious cycle.... trying to feel like a "man"... the depression on top of it... well, it would truly take a NEW sexual relationship to have enough juice and excitement to overcome all of that, but it is only temporary...
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