[pacasam]

One of my favorites of my H's is "I prefer a very clean house and you can't keep the house or car clean enough!"  Note: my h never got his dirty laundry out of the bathroom and that was after tracking sand through the whole house  (is a sandblaster as a job), he'd finish a bag of potato chips and throw the bag over to the table from the sofa usually missing the table, plastic bottles and cans left under coffee table.  He never hauled off the trash, if I asked him to because the trash cans were full he'd instead go buy a new trash can of which took longer then hauling the trash off.  He was the one that drove the pick up.  Still trying to figure out how I was to keep a car clean hauling off trash and leaves. 
When I got evicted after H bd'd he wanted me to haul off the sofa and a drop leaf table all by myself.  He is still driving a pick up truck and I'm still driving the same car...it's a dodge caliber hatchback.  I left both the table and the sofa for him to haul off and he complained that it took 4 "grown" men to move that sofa out of the house.

[nah]

One of my favorites of my H's is "I prefer a very clean house and you can't keep the house or car clean enough!"  Note: my h never got his dirty laundry out of the bathroom and that was after tracking sand through the whole house  (is a sandblaster as a job), he'd finish a bag of potato chips and throw the bag over to the table from the sofa usually missing the table, plastic bottles and cans left under coffee table.  He never hauled off the trash, if I asked him to because the trash cans were full he'd instead go buy a new trash can of which took longer then hauling the trash off.  He was the one that drove the pick up.  Still trying to figure out how I was to keep a car clean hauling off trash and leaves. 

I think this is very common for those of us that were in long-term relationships.

I always felt the Leaver was a bit of a slob, but I never complained b/c I felt he worked very hard at work, so when he got home he deserved to relax.

Now that he's gone, and I have lived with other men, I now realize the Leaver was a big time slob and never appreciated all the work I did.

Throughout our marriage, I usually worked outside of the house, but for a bit I was a stay-at home mom.  The entire time, I did ALL the house work, all of the laundry, most of the yard work, all of the errands, most of the carting the kids around for sports, appointments and such, I did ALL of the financing,... etc.  I mowed the lawn, took care of the pool, took out the trash,.... everything.  I really don't think he knew all of what I did, this I can tell you, he knows now.

One of the first things he did when they bought the big house was get a cleaning woman.  That went up me a mile high,.... too bad they can't afford one now.  Also too bad that they have several dogs and cats, and other animals.  My son said their house smells.

I'm sitting here looking around the house.  It never looked so good.  I do dishes and they stay done, I clean off the counter and it stays that way, no pee all over the toilet, no piles of laundry all over the house, no glasses and dishes on every table,.... I was expected to be everybody's maid, and you know what?  I did it.  That, I guess, was my fault.

[pacasam]

Nah I'm wondering how long he'll be allowed to stay where he's at before they kick him out. LOL He doesn't like people knowing he's the slob that he is and will try and keep up that good guy persona but then as soon as he relaxes he'll be boo hooing.  Big time mama's boy....mama always cleaned his room and balanced his checkbook for him.  Meanwhile I'm enjoying a clean apartment.

[Loyal]

What he has said to others about me;

* she`s a very evil woman 

* she abuses me physically

* I`m so scared she`ll attack me that I have had to bring security escorts with me each time I had to go to the flat(he`s a Vanisher)

* She reported me to the tax office

I`m 1,57cm and weigh about 42kg, if not less after my compulsory MLC diet which I have been on, solely due to the vicious way he`s carrying out his vanishing act.  God alone knows what else he`s been saying about me but what`s good is, is that all the people who told me those things have said he`s not all there anymore.

[Romans7v2]

I  too have heard the ILYBINILWY.

I've also heard, "Can't I have you both?"  (Um--NO.  Don't wedding vows include "forsaking all others"?)

He and the OW have a "connection."  Supposedly she's more compatible with him.  (Yeah right.)  They're soulmates!  (Haha!)

He actually asked me what I thought of her.  I said she's trashy (and I'm not the only one with that opinion).

She's a few years younger than me and looks 10-15 years older. 

From what I've seen and heard she rules the roost and has my husband on a tight leash. 

He was actually helping me pay the rent on our apartment after he left, then that money dried up.  I had to move to a cheaper place across the county.  He said "You're moving away from me!"  (Wait--who was the one who left first?)  I spelled it out for him--since he told me that the OW didn't want him to give me money that wasn't court-ordered, I was forced to move.  He finally said, "Well, you did what you had to do."

I also heard the "I'm just a paycheck to you."  Yet while his divorce from me (he filed) was going on, he told me that he was wrong about that.

He's actually told me that she's more annoying, she smokes (which he's said has been a dealbreaker with him), and all that--yet how in the world did he end up married to her?   

I try to take the high road.  Not easy.

[bluerose]

     It absolutely astounds me how much of the same things these idiots say to us.

[Mae]

     It absolutely astounds me how much of the same things these idiots say to us.

Me too!

This is what my H said to me when I discovered his inappropriate text messages to FA.

"What there was nothing in our conversations that were inappropriate....I'm going to check" (Five minutes later.......) "Oh ok...." And then "But you said it was okay to go out and explore other relationships" What I actually said was "Do you want to explore that relationship?" To which he replied "No". Never did I give him the 'go ahead' that it was okay for him to do that.

[bluerose]

     Well, you did ask him about it, you should have drawn him a picture and used flash cards. Maybe it would have cut the confusion down for him a little bit. Shame on you!!lol

[Mae]

Yep....I guess that was 'my bad'. 

[bluerose]

Oh well. Live and learn.