[limitless]

My Ex had taken photos of me when I was a child.  I don't know if this was by accident or on purpose.

I would never have even noticed except several years after he left - he gave them to my D21 to give to me. 

I never even acknowledged that he returned them.

When he first left he just took a bag of clothes.  I believe that he bought a new wardrobe (Probably MLC-ish).  He returned on several occasions, taking things here and there.  He finally took all his belongings a year after our divorce was final.  (Almost 4 years post BD).

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[MIMIx]

So now I know what has happened to the outdoor extension cords. 

[Joy in Pain]

He took a wooden Buddha, an American flag and my good crafting scissors.  WTF

[stillbaffled]

Joy  - thanks for bumping this thread.  I just read all the responses.  Crazy stuff. 

My H walked out the night he told me with nothing but the clothes he was wearing and his truck.  Went to his mother's. Came back two days later when I went to work and took clothes, his cash, and his passport. 

Left his guns, and virtually everything else.  Over the last 5 months he has been back a few times while I've been at work and taken a few more things.  Mostly stuff that's his. 

The one thing he took of mine that made me mad was my Bunn coffee maker.  For 35 years he had been having his coffee at the coffee shop every morning.  Since he quit that cold turkey after BD I guess he needed to have coffee wherever he was going to be.  Cheap guy couldn't even go buy his own.  I never mentioned it. 

Most everything in the house is mine.  All his garage stuff and shed stuff is still here.  The nice riding lawn mower is his but I've already used it twice and I'm going to keep using it using it until it disappears.  In fact, I'll be using whatever is here until it does disappear.

I think my H left pictures and even some of his personal stuff because he just doesn't want any reminders and he's going to start new and fresh on his journey. 

[Shadoe]

They take/leave strange things. Mine took a few clothes (not enough for a week at work), his tv and his playstation. He left everything else including his extra contacts and toothbrush.


Granted, most of what is here is mine but he didn't even take his own stuff. He even left his computer that he was on every night. Go figure.

[Velika]

I previously listed the items my husband took, which was things you might take on a camping trip: guitar, backpack, a drum.

He returned more recently to retrieve a box of memorabilia, including photos, that I had organized for him. I remember the way he carried it out, just like after bomb drop. It was like a man imprisoned for decades suddenly realizing the jail cell was never locked.

[LiveIwillDo]

WoW!! I thought it was just My life!!??
My H has moved in with his 91yr old Grandmother - Same Place I found him at.. I Digress.
When i go over to visit.. I see My DVD's, Cds,Knives Socks, Towels???
LOL! I dont say anything.. Normal Taker stuff.. Just thought to My self "WOW" this guy is a Hot Mess

[Thunder]

This isn't about what he took or left (he's still in the house), it's about a cookie jar I took.

He came over to my apartment one day...he's only been here maybe 3 times, but he saw my Bobbie Baker cookies jar he bought me one year for my birthday.  He said...oh you took my cookie jar.

I said no that was the one you bought me for my birthday at an antique store.
He got quite upset and said, no I remember I bought it for me.   
Completely skipped his mind how I was thrilled and thanked him many times for buying it because I had looked at it many times.

To this day he doesn't remember. 
It's not a big deal but it was one thing I would have thought he would NEVER have forgot because I made such a fuss over it.   

[BittyBoosMom]

So glad I'm not the only one to have this type of a story...

The day of BD, I had  packed up most of his clothes (2 suitcases, 3 duffle bags & 6 garbage bags) and put them in the garage for him to get along w/his golf clubs and bowling balls. He came sometime during the night and @ first I thought he only took his golf clubs.  However, upon further inspection (LOL), found that he also took 1 suitcase.  And since he didn't take anything else, I unpacked it all - if he wants to leave, he'll have to pack up his own stuff!!

He can't get in our house anymore - I took his house key (going to be changing the locks) and garage door opener.  And I told him that he's not to take ANYTHING when our D is present, which is always since he only comes over to see her.  If he wants to get his stuff, he'll have to make arrangements to do it when she and I aren't home and have another family member present to oversee him

[MourningDove]

The story of the missing drawer....

Mine said he would not take anything from the house, as he wasn't going to disrupt our kids lives. H took his chair from the livingroom and some things that fit his new fantasy home - nothing that is not OW design aesthetic. He has not taken anything the kids have made him over the years (things he cherished) the only photos of them are on his phone. He has left artwork he has created, things we have bought together, antiques he collected, family heirlooms from his family. He took a firepit last night - whatever.

Last week during a melt down (after his F died) he apparently was having a dinner get together with his sister and her family and came to take the glassware out of the basement, because he "could not even afford dixie cups". (Has spent tons of money apparently and I suspect the agreement to be reimbursed for the materials for this great deal on a cottage - live there in exchange for fixing it up - is starting to not be the case and the reimbursement is not happening as quickly or at all). So he leaves 2 of the glasses from the set and not even the same size. The kids and I laughed at when we saw the 2 glasses (we have to laugh).

The funniest and most bizarre though is a drawer. Yes folks, you are reading this correctly - not the whole piece of furniture but the drawer. H had a drawer he kept his keys in and receipts that related to his work that he would come home and toss the things in there until he was ready to deal with them. Our house receipts, etc would go in the office. In the drawer was also paperwork relating to his father's illness, etc. It was the same night as the glassware incident and he was running around packing up his Jeep (which has no top on it at the moment) and throwing things in it to go back to his cottage. I go inside after he has sped off telling me to have a nice life and see that the entire drawer is not there. I look around the room thinking he just pulled it out and sorted through it (as he has done in the past). No drawer. I call my sister and am laughing hysterically. She comes to visit the next day and stands there in disbelief. My S comes home from work and out of routine goes to pull the knob on the now non-existent drawer to put the spare keys in the drawer, realizes the drawer is gone and looks around the room as I had done. S turns to me and says where is the drawer? When I tell him S laughs and asks did his dad put something over top of it or did papers fly out all the way to his cottage. We laugh at the idea of the paperwork flying out the top of the Jeep - a testament to his MLC insanity. S says WTF???

The drawer has yet to come back. That was 2 weeks ago. Frankly, I don't even care anymore.
It is a reminder of how messed up H's head must be and that even though it is painful for us, taking the drawer is just symbolic of the lack of MLC logic. It is an ongoing joke (yes, in reality not funny,
but you have to laugh). We don't mention it, and when H has been here in the last couple of weeks the first place the kids look is to the empty spot in the hutch. They smile and shake their heads. H has no idea what they are laughing about and is so clueless he thinks they are just sharing some other inside joke, so he will laugh along and say "so glad you two are getting along so well", which makes them laugh harder.