[ArmySpouse]

Speechless....

You gave them out at work? !

Speechless again...

Mine never would admit he needed them.  Once to hurt me he told me he didn't need them with OW.   I laughed and said, give it time.  According to all rumors Willy is currently on strike.

  loooooooooooolllllll! I am bursting here... Oh gosh...


As for mine:
The opposite  he wanted to have everything , had to pretty much put my foot down and tell him I needed stuff too (and the kids)... He threw a bunch of fits about it too.. His clothes are all gone into the new apartment. The only thing that is left is really his army stuff in the garage. That will go into storage once I move.

I guess he is the exception ? Paintings, diplomas etc all gone. We really live separate lives.

Wondering about that now reading about the other cases here..

He comes by and every once in a while goes through boxes in the garage to see if there is more stuff he can use.. Like decoration!
He took a lot out when we moved into his stack and whenever he wasn't around I took things quietly back cause those were my things (like my collection of magnets. He wanted to take some and I took them back)..

[Absolutely Fabulous]

Nah, you're too much. I couldn't stop laughing. 

Army, they all go to extremes, they either take nothing/very little, to wanting the kitchen sink. They're running on emotions. I think that the OP is usually behind the wanting of all the stuff. After all, they have to stake a claim don't they? Now how pathetic is that?

Mine took so little that I was shocked that he didn't want more. He left all his tools, all his old uniforms ( expect for one set of dress blues ), all his old clothes, all his important papers except his birth certificate/social security card, none of his artwork, or Ball memorabilia. How's that for not thinking anything through.

He did take a lot of pictures. Oddly enough, he left most of my In laws pictures. He even took a wedding picture of us; in fact, he took all, but the ones ( wedding pictures ) in the album. Crazy. 

[CallingHeart]

HILARIOUS NAH!!!

Mine was like Army's and he took almost "all" of "his" things. Furniture, clothes, stuff from out of the closets and the garage.  His beloved Planet of the Apes movies (lol).  He took all the Christmas ornaments that were his from the past.  He had to go through boxes of things to pick through the items that he considered were his.  I can tell he did a pretty thorough job of going through everything. 

He did leave behind some few oddities, though.  He left behind his ceramic soap dish and toothbrush/razor holder thingy.  He also left his electric toothbrush behind, but he took some new manual ones we had in a stash.  He left his pillows behind.  He left a couple of wicker benches and 2 wood tables his uncle had made.  I feel like he purposefully left some things behind and accidently left other things. 

He didn't take anything I had given him for any of his birthday's or anniversaries.  I usually had things custom made for him.  He did take a leather-bound journal that I had made that had our wedding scriptures inscripted on the inside.  That may have been by accident since I think he had it in his desk.

There's a part of me that hopes he grabbed some things that will bring back memories of us from time to time. But, who knows....

Calling...

[Thunder]

I was the one who moved out so my situation is a bit different.  I suspect had he moved out he would have just taken the dogs, his back packing stuff and his exercise equipment.  He told me to take what ever I wanted.

I had a lot of time to sift through out things.  I tried to be as fair as I could be because I didn't want to leave him with nothing.

If I took a picture of mine off the wall I'd replace it with a picture of his.
We had one set of dinnerware and the china from my mom.  I took the china and bought myself a new set of dishes.
I took the bed and the kitchen table but helped him replace them with garage sale items.  (the rest of the furniture I left him and bought new).
I divided up all the tents and camping equipment.
Left him the TV, bought myself a new one.
Took the laptop, he bought a new one.
I left the dogs with an open invitation to see them any time a wanted to.

I think it was a good break.  No anger.  I could have been really selfish and took everything but I had to live with myself.
It gave me comfort knowing he was not sitting in a completely bare house.

Of course I'm was the LBS, not the MLCer.   

[Absolutely Fabulous]

I hear you Thunder. I took everything of value out of the house, because I was afraid that he wouldn't get it before the foreclosure, and the padlock was placed on the door. And that someone would break in and steal it. I guess I was right to do so. Irresponsible as ever, the house got broken into while he was procrastinating.

Oh course he waited until the last minute, so who didn't expect a break in? Not to mention the bank came in and dumped everything on the second floor of the house from the attic. Everything else was dumped into the living room. They've gotten rid of most of the stuff that got left behind. He really thought that I was going to have his back, after he threw me and our kids under the bus. Unbelievable. I tell you, no one believes me when I tell them this s*it. You really can't make this up.

Apparently some things that he really wanted were stolen. He didn't make it back in time to take them.    Guess why? He thought that I was going to put them in storage, so that he could pick up his stuff when he felt like it, and pay for it for him. With no financial assistance, and no real job to speak of to pay for it. LOL

Lesson learned. I'm not your wife anymore pal, your choice, not mine. 

[Thunder]

My3,

It's amazing how they live in this blur and cant seem to help themselves.  Mine does the same thing.  He knows he needs to deal with certain financial stuff but leaves it until it bites him in the butt.  Nothing I can do about it.  I have myself to worry about.

[hawk]

You know , l couldn't even tell what mine took it was easier seeing stuff she left , nearly everything. lt was bizarre .

But there was this damn pair of shoes, her favorite yet she didn't take them. They were still in the hall in exactly the same position they use to land in , in the way she use to kick them off as she got in.
l vacuumed around them for 16mths , never ever touched them or moved them . And sometimes we had 6 or 7 of d's mates staying over for a wk at a time and yet somehow , these shoes just stopped right where w left them totally untouched , still in the same position.
When l packed the house to move 16mths later, l through them in the rubbish and finally they were gone.

[Thunder]

Good for you hawk.  It was just time and you were finally ready. 

[Airmid]

Mine took very little of his clothes from the NYC apartment.
After 3 failed attempts to get him to pick them up - I packed them up and put him in his car when he was at work.

He ransacked my upstate house taking a $1000.00 Miele vacuum. 
He took every tool and cleaning instrument - including all my brooms.
He took all my pots and pans and my kitchenaid mixer. Mind you- the man does not know how to cook.
He took all the liquor. But he left most of his clothes.

When I saw that the house looked like a burglar had trashed it, I changed all the locks.
That ended the ransacking.

I rounded up all his clothes that he left in the house 6 months after BD and gave them to Goodwill.
He never even asked about them.

Oh yes, and he stole 2 of our cats and gave them to OW!!
 

[Thunder]

Air, how heartless!  You must have felt so violated.  I'm sorry.