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MLC Monster Re: Strange things they say....
#130: August 04, 2017, 05:30:55 AM
Heres one my W said a few weeks back

"Your not a single parent, the boys are grown up"...  17 and 19 but living with me, causing more mess than they should at they're age and emptying the fridge quicker than I can fill it!!

Last night via Whatsapp voice text..
I went shopping, Ws car was in the carpark. I didnt see her in the shop. When I was finished, her car was still there and the passenger window was open by 20cms...

Me : "W, you should come out and close your window if you don't want somebody to steal your car"
W  : "What car? the one outside the shop?"
Me : "of course, unless you have 2 more parked somewhere which I don't know about"
W  : "Are you at the shop? I'm there too"
Me : "Of course, I just told you that ive seen your car outside"
W  : "Im at the shop too, just doing some shopping" 

WTF was that all about???? Like a 8 year old!!  ::)

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Married - 19,5 Years pre BD
Together - 21,5 Years
Me: 46
W: 46 (Acts 25)
BD 1: 10.01.2017
BD 2: 24.02.2017 OM 28 (now 31) Trainings partner. Is tolerated by LaFamiglia
2 Sons - 20 & 21
1 Dogs and a cat.
Own home . Sold!
Divorce Date 21.08.2018
T1  http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8671.0

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Re: Strange things they say....
#131: August 04, 2017, 07:09:01 AM
When BD came and went, we would have a few chats.  This was before I knew the WHOLE intriguing saga of H and his ow.  Here are a just a few:

                "I want to know what doing cocaine feels like"
                "I want to ride a motorcycle 200 mph down the highway"
                "Why can't I firetruck big tittied women?"

He has also stated that he wants his cake and eat it to.  ::)
               
 

         
       

           
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Re: Strange things they say....
#132: November 10, 2017, 03:34:20 PM
Thought of bumping this topic. MLCer's grandma passed away last week and he had to head home for her funeral 4 hours away - i wasn't informed until a week later when he had an argument with EA2, don't think they are that close anymore. Anyway, no communication with his siblings AT ALL before, during and after the funeral - he is severing his relationships with his brothers and sisters which is bad.

Anyway, his mum told me that she overhead him telling a cousin who just found out we've separated that... we are not "over", just 'living apart'  :o  ::) It's been almost 1.5 years since I moved out.
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Re: Strange things they say....
#133: November 11, 2017, 09:43:51 AM
 Some of the things my H has said over the past 2.5 years..

I love OW and I want to be with her ( ok, then file for divorce )

I still love you and I think I always will ( really? you lay down next to me after being with her and im suppose to think you love me..)

I am conflicted and confused ( if that's true then you dont move in with OW. you live on your own and figure things out)

I feel justified in my behaviour, you pushed me away ( I was busy taking care of everything and being the adult)

You kept me from my family ( not true, no one held a gun to your head and forced you to not see them)

you have to fight and have drama all the time ( I do not go around people that do not like me)

I want a long term seperation ( ok, then live on your own)

I dont want a divorce ( you left me for her, why not divorce me)

for now i am gone, you just need to deal with it ( you arent truly gone, you are playing both sides)

There will be no "working on things" if i want to come back I will simply come back ( you wont jump from her bed back into mine)

There is no reconcilliation ( really? then get the F out of my life)

I am just a pay check to you ( I have worked like a field hand for 36 years taking care of what we built together)

you had everything you wanted but nothing made you happy ( I was happy)

you treat me like a child ( act like a child get treated like a child)

why cant you just calm down and see where all this goes ( i did when all this came out and you have taken advantage of me)

If i had it my way i would have both of you ( it doesnt work like that when you are married.. unless you live in Utah)

I felt alone for years ( apparently you were never alone, you always had another woman on speed dial)

i know you are hurt, but things happen and i never ment for this to happen ( yea, your Pen!$ just accidently fell into her)

I am happy with her sometimes ( wow !! sounds like life, and we arent all always happy but we dont blow up our families..)

What i do is none of your business ( we are married and you went to a fertility clinic with a 35 yr old..I am 55 and menopausal..  i think thats my business )

I work, i dont have time to sit and text with you. ( really..thats all you did was sit around at work and text other women and meet them at hotels near your office)

I just want peace and i want to be happy ( you arent going to get that by having a wife and a girlfriend at the same time . who is really the drama queen in all this ?? )

This is not about the head, its about the heart and how i feel.. you keep trying to convince me to do things based on logic and that will never work..( so, if i am feeling hungry and have no money, if i see someone on the street with food i can just take it.. Im glad you cleared that up for me..because that logic thing keeps messing with what i want to do.)
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« Last Edit: November 11, 2017, 10:27:52 AM by waiting4 »
Me-55
H - 55
Adult D- 35
Married 37 yrs. married 33 yrs at time of BD
date of BD  2015
OW- YES, 36 yr old with a 7yr old
H- moved out of our home in  2015 & moved in with OW
H- says doesnt want divorce, wants long term separation. doesnt know what the future holds.
 H- has introduced OW to his family and visits them often with OW.
 H- has introduced OW to a few of our friends.
 Entering 2018. H has not filed for divorce.
He is still living with OW
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Mine left everything for about 18 months and refused to respond to any of my emails about it....and then sent me a text out of the blue that he wanted his piano (he was living on his aunt's boat at the time  ::) )
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H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.


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Thanks Treasur, I was looking for this thread.  :)
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A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Mine only came back once for one thing (he knew I would be at work)... his hockey bag.
I spent the whole summer filling it with dead rodents from the pool filter.

He never said a word about it.  Can you imagine what it was like to open that bag??  ;D ;D
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I packed his bags two days later...semi-vanisher
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Omg Nah—that is just awesome!! I’m so happy I read that just now. 🤣🤣🤣
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OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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Love that, nah!

Mine wanted a chocolate fountain and a small piece of wire for his bait boat even though he never went fishing. He also refused to give me my key back and kept on asking for his spare car key (even though I packed it).

All of these things have been asked for after periods of NC
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BD#1 August 2015 - i think i should move out and carry on as we are because i love you but it would work better
BD#2 December 2016 - moved out
ow- 19 years his junior with 3 young kids

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Mine left everything for about 18 months and refused to respond to any of my emails about it....and then sent me a text out of the blue that he wanted his piano (he was living on his aunt's boat at the time  ::) )
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Hysterical^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Mine only came back once for one thing (he knew I would be at work)... his hockey bag.
I spent the whole summer filling it with dead rodents from the pool filter.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Priceless!!^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Those made my day!  Thanks nah and Treasur!!!
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