[StandandDeliver]

Faith, I am in the same boat as you, except H sent the kids home to me after their weekend with him and OW with roses for me. But they were not from him they were from the kids, in fact I think it was OW's idea to show H what a big person she is - she came with H to drop the kids and the roses to me. I accepted them warmly and graciously from the children and OW ran back into the car without saying anything, looking a little more cowardly and a little less "big".  I sent H nothing, of course. H doesn't give me hope either - the only time he has stated he loves me, is when I told him that I loved him. He is engrossed (gross being the operative word  ) with OW. Still sends emails about something to do with kids or finances everyday.

Still, I baked a cake and had a glass of wine and a big bubble bath with candles and read some Pema Chodron. Some self love in the form of indulgence and self-reflection for V day here!


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[Metal]

Glad that day is over. Nada from W.
I resisted texting her (about 10 times).

Bought some chocolates for the kids.
Took D11 out so she could buy some V-stuff for her friends.
D11 this morning asked me if W was trying to win her affection b/c W was upset that I got them choc's, and she didn't.
Lots of Q's about divorce and custody this morning.
W actually forgot she had planned to take D11 out yesterday, but then didn't have $$ to take her out, since W spent $200 on video games recently. Really?!?!

Speaking of MLC blaming LBS for everything, I recently said to kids that "W feels like she can't be home anymore", and I caught major spew, and in fact now it's "really over" between us. All on the basis of using the work "feel".. b/c it wasn't supportive enough. Whatever.

[Ibelieve]

I did really great on Val Day. I had decided that I would not do anything for H, since he has OW. He didn't call on Anniversary in Dec. And though he called on my Birthday, two weeks ago,  I knew nothing would happen on Val Day. And I didn't think he deserved anything from me. I only thought about texting him once, then it left my mind. I had dinner with my sister (Her H recently passed away) and her adult son (His GF was out of town) And we had a lot of fun. We exchanged cards. And my sister gave me a pretty bracelet with
a charm that says "Believe". She is wonderful. She has her sadness, yet she is still thinking of me. She is really upset with my H, but knows I am hurting and that I want to Stand.

[stayed]

That is lovely Ibelieve... good for you honey.  You are doing the best thing you can do, get strong and healthy so you will be able to understand this better.  Happy and content within yourself, so that you can make wise choices and decisions.

Well done sweetie.

hugs Stayed...

[Ibelieve]

Hi Stayed,

Thanks so much, that makes me feel so good. I was even smiling most of today thinking about how I did. It was kind of like
a "neeener" thing. Because I know he was probably wondering why he didn't hear from me. Since he has been hearing from me
so often.. OR maybe not! But it's ok. I am happy that my sister and I were each others Valentines this year considering what we
 are both going through.
(((Hugs)))

[OldPilot]

^

[TrustingMyHP]

Thanks for bumping this up, OP.  I was just thinking about this "topic" yesterday.

This will be my 2nd Valentine's Day since BD.  The first was just 5 weeks post BD.  Nothing happened last year (H didn't contact me, I didn't contact him) and I'm confident that's the drill this year.  Heck, H didn't acknowledge my B-day three weeks ago so I don't expect he'll have had a change of heart in that short of time!

One diff, though, for me this year is the pain has subsided to a slow boil, not the water bubbling uncontrollably over the rim of the pot like last year.  That's a blessing. 

I will certainly be journaling about it and saying a prayer for my H on Valentine's all the same. 

He needs it.

TMHP

[Mamma Bear]

 That's my 1 year Anniversary of BD!!!  Yipee! Come so far!    Still going!  Keep the Faith!
 I thought I would puke every Valentines Day for the rest of my life!  NOT!!!  My Ds and I have now grabbed it as a FUN Holiday!!  When we walk into a pharmacy or dept store and we are swallowed up by giant hearts and cupids we start laughing! Now Valentine's Day serves as Day 1 of "Things starting to get better!" Because God knows we couldn't have kept up the way we were!
 Too bad H has such an unorthodox manner of 'shakin' things up a bit'

[In this for ME]

Yeah MB don't you think they could have at least said - "Look honey I'm feeling a little disconnected..maybe we could talk??"

 No NO that would have been too hard..

Then they say to themselves...
"Let's just leave and not come home and then not tell her whats going on..that will be SO much easier for me.." 

Friggin idiots!!! 

[Mamma Bear]

  IN Thisfor the long haul,,, Let's just leave and never come home and not tell them we left. Let the 9 year old tell us..   It must be eating him up. He really is nothing like this. From NOW til FOREVER when he goes into any store this time of year   HaHaHa    A constant reminder of his WORST MOMENT EVER!!!    He didn't know it was Valentine's Day! I know it was the 1st time they slept together..I'm sure Bowser knew it was freakin' Valentines Day! DISGUSTING! MEAN! LOW! Despicable! Trash! Where the freak is that Karma Bus? That's her true colors!