[Thundarr]

Thanks OP.  Dude, you're worse than Wal-mart by bringing this up a month in advance.  I just survived the big holidays and now you dump this on me.  What are ya gonna do after Valentine's Day?  Start reminding me of my upcoming wedding anniversary? Geez!! Lol!!

I plan on buying candy for the kids and my mom.  I'll have four Valentines this year so that'll have to be enough.  I may get myself something as well.  Hmmmm....

[Finding Hope]

Last Valentines Day, my h sent me the most beautiful orchids and roses at work, with the sweetest card. Then less than a month later he says ILYBINILWY, that was reeeeeeeeeeally special. Can't wait to see what happens this year.

C

[willitgetbetter]

Have you given Valentine's Day cards while standing? If so, what did you say in it? And how was it received by your MLCer? And did they give you one? Will be my first Valentine's Day "alone" in 13 years. Thinking the proper language for a card, if you wanted to give one, is tricky, can't be pursuing but paving.  Thinking RCR would have the perfect language, she always knows just what to say, in perfect balance. Any experiences or thoughts?

[Covenant for Life]

Hi Will It.

I would not advise giving a Valentine's Day card at all.  No matter what the card says, it would more than likely be pursuing - not paving the way.  Our MLCers know we love them and do not need a VD card to be reminded of that fact.  In some cases, giving a VD card may even bring out Monster.

Merged with thread on this subject. read previous discussion

[missybuddha]

oh last year was horrific and painful. bd was on the 9th and I was still in shock. I did get him a card and in it wrote  it was this "“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.” -Simone Signoret"
and I bought a book of poetry. So I was without the wisdom of this forum.
He got me nothing.
every year  my h and I always paid attention to v-day. (and I did think of sending a card for a fleeting moment but NO!!!!) and the whole idea makes me feel sick, but i'm struggling today. I shall go out with my daughters and WILL not be in MOping. 

[In this for ME]

Well ExH and his exskank's relationship didn't even make it to Valentines Day last year. ( Boo Hoo)
But he got me nothing anyway.
 I always tried to put that holiday into our relationship. This year should be interesting.

[NewBeginnings]

Last year my H gave me a dozen roses.  I didn't get a special Valentines Day card.  I did get 2 of those small cards that you get at the florist.  One said,  Happy Valentines Day, Love H.  No, I love you.   The other card said "I'm sorry."  The weekend before he left a day early.  He said he was having an anxiety attack, he needed to leave.  I assumed thats what the I'm sorry card was for.  Now I wonder if it was for the upcoming BD!  When I read the I'm sorry card, I hugged my H and told him it was ok but to please never leave early again like that.  He said ok, he wouldn't.  11 days later he was gone!     It was weird.  He had been acting weird, nervous the entire month of Feb..  11 days after Valentines I got the BD phone call saying he wasn't coming home, ILYBINILWY!      There's no one else, bla bla bla.  Lies, all lies.

[Mamma Bear]

   Yeah mine took up track and field last VD and ran away!!!!  He didn't know it was Valentines Day. I'm sure ow did. Today as we approach 1 year he was telling me about some good chocolate for cheap prices he said "Oh let's not mention Valentine's Day." Then he made an ashamed face       I think it is definietly sinking in. What happened. When it happened and Why! I think it'll be a new favorite holiday of mine someday   Wake up call!

[unbroken]

you do not want cheap chocolate.
much rather have one piece of really good chocolate!

[Rebel Yell]

I remember struggling last year.
This year, roses and a real card.
Maybe even a weekend getaway?