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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Valentines Day
#110: February 14, 2011, 09:35:28 AM
"Thank you" or "You too" should work fine.
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Re: Valentines Day
#111: February 14, 2011, 09:38:34 AM
U2 was my first thought as well.  Is this a first for Vday?
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Re: Valentines Day
#112: February 14, 2011, 10:07:05 AM
Thanks for the advice Blue, SS, Buggy and LIW....I will take some time this morning to process. Will let ya know what I do...I am tempted to ignore, but he has been opening up a bit recently. 

Some other responses that have crossed my mind...."Hope it is romantic as mine" "Hope your day is full of love and romance" "Thanks for reminding me" "You have got to be kidding" "Thanks for reminding me I do not have a valentine" "Thanks for reminding me my valentine is spending the day with a ho"

LIW....LettingGo and I are often confused. I cannot take credit for her wonderful advice! But I am always flattered by the mix ups :)

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Re: Valentines Day
#113: February 14, 2011, 10:10:05 AM
Quote from: LifeGoesOn on February 14, 2011, 10:07:05 AM
I am tempted to ignore, but he has been opening up a bit recently. 

MY advice in bold!
Anything else is pursuing.

But what do I know!
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Re: Valentines Day
#114: February 14, 2011, 10:15:32 AM
Twas Valentine's Day this year
And all through the house
My husband was hiding
Behind the cloak of a louse

My heart had been shattered
So detachment was my goal
And yet I kept begging
For it was my dignity he stole

So I twisted and twirled
I cried and then I screamed
Where is my loving spouse?
What happened to my dreams?

But slowly I awakened
To the truth that was there:
The less I struggled
The less I would care

Be it mentally or physically
I am on my own at least for awhile
So I found out I liked myself
And that made me smile

Not chocolates nor flowers
Nor a kind word from my man
Could match what I learned
And suddenly tall I did stand

I am my own person
And though his feelings did drift
Loving myself and living my life
Is the greatest of all gifts

So Happy Valentine's Bonnie
To my reflection I will say
I love you very much
And more each and every day.

Happy Valentine's Day all you great folks!
Bonnie
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Re: Valentines Day
#115: February 14, 2011, 10:43:50 AM
Bonnie, you're very clever! I loved your poem and your attitude.

It's my H's birthday today and he emailed me a long business email. I replied 'OK, thanks" and I did not mention his birthday or valentine's day. I think he was looking for something from me, cause the 'business' wasn't urgent. I have let go and I think he's feeling it. But I really have, and don't feel anything good for him now, only the memories of what was. If feels good, I feel free, and I don't have fear.

Happy Valentine's to you all!
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Re: Valentines Day
#116: February 14, 2011, 10:48:11 AM
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I thought about repling:

"I don't know where this is going.."

I've gotten that one a few times!
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Re: Valentines Day
#117: February 14, 2011, 10:53:42 AM
Bonnie
fantastic poem

and Remembered last year on our Wedding aAniversary my H suddenly e-mailed me re 'nothing'urgent and I did the same as you replied no mention of our WA
so hate these silly childish games .......... B
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Re: Valentines Day
#118: February 14, 2011, 11:04:06 AM
Working in my office and I got a call from my w to meet her in the front. She brought me StarBucks for Valentine's Day. How Sweet. I was expecting nothing so this is big to me!!!

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Re: Valentines Day
#119: February 14, 2011, 11:18:44 AM
Little woo hoo for ya Ready.
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