[Thunder]

Interesting article, T.

I think two things.  Your first love never dies, in your head anyway.

I feel looking back, after all those years, you are romanticizing the relationship.  It may have been a good one or maybe not have been but when you're young love is romantic.   

I don't really believe too many of them could work because when you were young you had no real responsibilities, you were carefree.  No kids to raise no family to feed, probably no bills to pay.  Heck, who wouldn't want to go back to that easy life?  But you insert reality and it's a whole different ball game.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

I don't get it. I think about my first love and I have no interest in going back. We weren't a good match then and I doubt it would be any better now. I have no desire to rekindle a relationship with anyone I dated when I was young. There was one girl who really broke my heart. I thought I wanted to marry her but now I know there was a reason why it didn't work out and I've no interest in going there either. Especially considering the way she broke my heart.

Which brings me back to now. I still want my wife back in spite of the way she broke my heart and I'm not romanticizing my adolescent relationships so I doubt I'm romanticizing my marriage. My feelings for my wife must be real.

[calamity]

I was totally romanticizing my h.  Since BD I only thought of him as he was at 25.  I forgot he was really a grumpy old man.

[Thunder]

MB,

I was just giving my opinion on the article. 
I don't have any desire to go back to my first love either but I think a lot of people in MLC do.  It's like the go back to there youth (fantasize) and want to relive it, even their first loves can be part of that delusion.

No, I'm sure your love for your W is real.   

[Mitzpah]

No desire at all to go back to my 'first love' - I suppose I could even try that if I wanted, he is unattached There is nothing there, we parted ways back then and I really have no interest.

There were others, too, but like MBIB, the only real interest I have is my husband.

[Ready2Transform]

The boy I dated before Hoss I've found out from mutual friends was diagnosed in the last ten years with schizophrenia. I guess he has his life together now, but it explains a lot about his 'strangeness' at times during the few months we were sort of on-and-off in high school. So no...I'll skip that! But it does scare me that I have a type, don't I? 

[Howmanytimes]

Hello everyone

Sorry for not being on the sitcom so long.  Have been dropping in though.

Thought you may find this link interesting as it is about a Woman who thought her H was going through MLC but it turned out to be early onset dementia.

Here is the link:  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3520246/Wife-split-Navy-veteran-husband-mid-life-crisis-later-diagnosed-dementia-aged-just-36.html#socialLinks

[Anjae]

Thank you for posting the link here, Howmanytimes.

Like I said in your thread, I don't think most of our MLC are having early dementia. I agree some signs/symptoms can be similar, but, as a general rule, MLCers come out of MLC. Once their crisis is over, their behaviour goes back to normal. That does not happen with dementia.

Not saying that some MLCers may not be having early dementia (or not so early, since a few are on their 60's), but the way I see it, they are separated issues.

Could those who have MLC be more vulnerable to, later, have dementia? I really do not know. 

[kikki]

Could those who have MLC be more vulnerable to, later, have dementia? I really do not know.

Yes apparently so.  Long term untreated depression has been proven to be an increased risk for later dementia .  It's somewhere in our 'brain' threads.

[Anjae]

You're right Kikki.

Still, I do not know if we can use MLC depression in the same way as other types of depression.  We probably can.

MLC depression seems to be a beast of its own, and different from the other kinds. But, yes, most likely former MLCer are at a higher risk of having dementia.