[xyzcf]

I have seen the movie..at first I didn't like it, thought it rather artificial...but after sleeping, I had a different idea...the unconditional love and continuing expression of love by the LBS as well as the concept that firemen "never leave their partners alone in a fire" resonated.

I am doubtful that it would have any effect on your spouse because they don't see that there is anything wrong with them.

[unbroken]

I would watch it for yourself.  You can get it on Netflix.  It's also available in 12 parts on Youtube.
Don't try to force anything on your spouse (books, articles, moves, counseling, even R talks).  In early days it will only do more harm than good.

[readytofixmyselffirst]

I agree. However, I am at a different point and I don't push but I let her know that I am available, I am her to support her and the kids, and I am committed to our marriage.

[Still]

I enjoyed watching Fireproof. The idea behind it is great, but we are dealing with so many other aspects when it is MLC. If a simple movie, book, article, or phrase could repair it, we would have come up with it by now. There isn't much we can do until they complete their journey.

The things like marriage counseling, relationship books, couples' retreats, movies, testimonials, etc. that might help a marriage with some normal issues get back on track are often the things that push our MLC'ers away and give them more justification as to why the marriage is over.

[trusting]

I would recommend maybe watching Fireproof by yourself but agree that your MLC spouse will most likely get absolutely nothing out of it. 

I watched it very early on (the movie hype coincided with the time of BD).  I recommended my H watch it and he said at one point he had, but it didn't make the tiniest bit of difference as far as I can tell. 

Maybe some day we will watch it together . . .

[Dontgiveup]

My wife and I watched it together a few years ago.  It's a great movie.....but I wouldn't watch it with an MLCer.  They don't seem to like being told how they should feel.

[LoveMeMyself]

I have the movie at home but have not watched it.  My exh and I purchased it when it came out but never watched it and then I tried to get him to watch it with me after BD but his comment to me at the time was, "why, so I'll feel worse than I already do".  So, the movie hasn't even been opened.  I'm afraid to watch it alone.  I know it will rip me apart.  I sat and watched a sweet movie last night about a talking parrot of all things.  The movie is "Paulie"............but it was sweet, sad and had a very happy ending but I still cried at the end.  I went to bed all broken down again.  I prayed for God to work on me and my situation.  I just want this madness to end!

[whyme2]

LMMan...

I have seen Paulie....cute movie.  Where are you in your journey?  I feel the madness too.....some days I think , "OK....I can handle this....I will be ok to be alone"...........the next day new voice in my head and major, major anxiety wells up in me....I look around see things, think of things that remind me of him.  Why does this have to be so difficult?   I feel your misery totally

[LoveMeMyself]

WhyMe2:

BD Oct. 09, he left Dec. 09 and divorced was final Oct 10. So, it's going on a year and a half since it started. We have little to no contact. No children together. I still have the up and down days and it makes me mad at myself. He did a little "touch-n-go" a week ago. It was weird but I just chalked it up as part of his process. He had a very brief affair with a co- worker. She quit her job when the word got out and he ended it but started a second one with an old high school classmate. We were still married during both his affairs. The second one was just as brief. I don't know what he is doing now or if there is someone else. He told me before Thanksgiving that he wasn't seeing anybody. This MLC SUCKS and I hate what it does to all these marriages and families. I pray for us ALL!

[hampc0cv]

I seen the movie along with my daughter.  she taped it and gave it to her dad.  Nothing has been said and that was a long time ago.  He is ignoring everything.