[Anjae]

Doesn't involve infidelity or abandonment but does involve a need for papa to have adventure in his life before its too late! Moominmama goes with it and they get through! It's quite funny.

That is the best way, both going on the adventure together. 

[toughtimes]

Doesn't involve infidelity or abandonment but does involve a need for papa to have adventure in his life before its too late! Moominmama goes with it and they get through! It's quite funny.

That is the best way, both going on the adventure together. 

I know, I suggested this to H, I said I wanted us to face this together that we can see this as an adventure and I wanted to hold his hand through this, through the therapy he was going to have and was scared of. He replied "why on earth would I want someone like you holding my hand? I want to fix my life and follow through my changes but not with you."

If only I had married moominpapa's long lost brother or better still, my favourite man in the world, Snuffkin ... we could have roamed freely together and not engaged with Western cares for status, money, success and ego boosting praise! Funnily enough I thought my H was my Snuffkin but it seems not! 

That is the best way, both going on the adventure together. 

Did I read that some MLCers have suggested their mistresses move in with them? That would their idea of both going on the adventure! 

[Anjae]

Silver Linings Playbook http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1045658/. Not about MLC but about bipolarity. Pat, the main character has been on a psychiatric hospital. He had a bipolar episode, got violent, end up in medical care. Like the therapist he goes to see after coming out of the hospital says: “One incident can change a lifetime”. Pat has lost everything: house, wife, friends and is trying to get is life back but things get a little strange. The movie was nominated for the Golden Globes and is nominated for the Oscars.

Some parts of the movie may is a very tough movie for a LBS to watch, especially for newbies and those early on the journey. There a lot of issues in the movie that can be triggers for us. For a good part of the movie the characters are quite insane, messed up and manic but in the end it all ends well.

[Standing in Patience]

It may not be a movie, but there was a recent reairing of "Happy Days". Mr. C turns 45 and it wants to run away to
Tahiti. He can't get an airline ticket but seems to recognize that he is in some type of crisis mode or at least admits
that something is a little "off" with himself.

[Standing in Patience]

One more - again not a movie - Oprah has a segment called Where are they Now?

Wife left husband with two children boy 4 and girl 8. She disappeared for 7 years after h divorced her for having affair. Oprah found her in jail contempt not paying child support (I hope I got that right?). She wanted to make amends with children. Children
were devastated (yes no longer with OM she ran off with) from the divorce and that the mother left the children. Boy now 11 can't face the mother. The girl now 16 told her mother that she helped raise her younger brother. Mother says she wants to be in the children's lives, sounds like rewriting some history perhaps about the events that transpired (not sure). Mother gets out of jail.

Months later Oprah follows up again. Mother still hasn't made plans to see her children. So sad. Could this be mlc?

[Ready2Transform]

I remember seeing that one!  It was similar to what Vanishers do, but she was actually very young when she left her family (I think she'd become a mother as a teen, and was just in her early 20's when she left).  That's the only thing that would make me doubt it was MLC.

[iamnottheenemy]

Watched Take this Waltz last night and thought it was pretty spot-one, especially in its treatment of the development of the EA.  Except in my case, it only took H 2 days from meeting OW1 to decide to "go for it."

The one thing that didn't ring true for me is that Michelle Williams' character genuinely seemed conflicted and upset about leaving her H, and again when she sees H at the end.  In my case, I don't see any conflictedness or any other emotion about my H leaving - he KNOWS he's made the right choice.

[underpressure]

Interesting, IANTE

Yes, the development of the EA was very much like the development of my EA. It was creepy how much it reminded me of my own affair. Except that the artist OM was so much more of a "good guy" than my OM. Unless an artist who doesnt show his work to anyone and pulls a rickshaw instead is an affair down from a publishing chef? My OM was an out of work writer, isolated, who had confidence in his work, but no drive toward getting it out there. Something about the isolated artist thing struck a chord with me...so that I could wallow in my own insecurities with him.

I see her split-self affair as fitting the MLC paradigm except that they are both so young...late 20's.

And then the coming out of it briefly and wanting perhaps to come back to H at the end seemed to fit the MLC story to me as well, only the spouse was keeping up a wall, a boundary. I saw that kind of shallow remorse in my H at the tail end of his affair. He still has not come home but he has ended his affair.

I think my transition had all the earmarks of a MLC on the surface, but I had no desire to separate or abandon. So even though I do see myself in this movie, I don't know that supports it being a true representation of MLC.

[Buggy31]

I saw it too and i luhuvvv the way they play out the entire affair R on the dance floor from beginning (fantasy and fun) to the reality(comfort and boredom).  Also, I also appreciated that H and W had a good R....I like the way the movie portrays this...I believe they make it very clear it was all about her.

[iamnottheenemy]

I commented to D during the H/W interaction scenes about how the wife was looking to the husband to be her sole source of happiness, which of course he couldn't be.  She pinned how she felt to his reactions, particularly rejection, which she magnified.  And how a "normal" relationship - fixing dinner, watching tv - wasn't enough excitement for her.  They did do a good job showing that the couple had a pretty normal marriage - loving but not perfect in the way that MLCers seem to crave.

I remember reading up the thread that someone's favorite quote was when the SIL said, "Even what is new eventually becomes old."  Buggy31, I agree that the movie did a good job of showing how eventually the wife falls into the same domestic patterns with OM.

My H's catch phrase right now is "have fun."  Nothing's worth doing if he's not "having fun." Why watch a movie on the sofa with your family when you could have the fun and excitement of texting a 20-year-old?