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Offline POOWOOTopic starterTopic starter

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My Story poof and his Vanished
« on: December 16, 2015, 01:51:26 AM »
Hi been told to start a new thread so here it is.
Not much to report my H is still vanished with no contact at all i still have not informed him of my redundancy or the passing of my Grandad i will cope by myself with my family and friends he doesn't want to be in my life so have it your way mister lets just hope he manges to fight through this before its too late.

please can someone link my old thread i tried but failed  :-\
thank you

Old thread: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7169.0
« Last Edit: December 16, 2015, 04:33:35 AM by Mitzpah »
Married 11 July 2005
been together 18 years
BD 3 august 2015
moved out to live with OW 3 august 2015
No children
H has vanished no contact
living in home he is paying half At the moment

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #1 on: December 16, 2015, 04:16:09 AM »
I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather's passing and your job. Some days it really seems that we get dumped on in unimaginable ways. Thinking of you as you navigate through all of this.

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #2 on: December 16, 2015, 04:56:27 AM »
It's a lot to deal with, PW, but you're going to be fine.

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #3 on: December 16, 2015, 05:22:42 AM »
attaching to your new thread -- X

CallingHeart....
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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #4 on: December 16, 2015, 07:59:20 AM »
I agree with your decision not to tell your MLCer.
Mine wanted to dump out of our lives but still stay connected to know all the news - and even comment and criticize decisions I was making!  :o ::)

They really are unbelieveable.

 

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #5 on: December 16, 2015, 08:02:12 AM »
Hi POO,

I agree, you have no responsibility to keep him informed about anything.
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #6 on: December 16, 2015, 11:30:36 PM »
Attaching.
Sorry about your grandad. I never told my h when two of my auntys died. He would have heard from the kids I'm sure and he couldn't even say sorry to hear!
Take care of you. Xx

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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #7 on: December 17, 2015, 05:12:44 AM »
Sorry about your granddad, too. Your H gave up the right to know anything about your life. You don't owe him any info. They can't handle anything anyway are usually no help.
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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #8 on: December 17, 2015, 06:51:06 AM »
Hi Poo

Sorry to hear about your granddad and I am with others about not telling your H, its likely you wouldn't get the reaction you wanted and it would only add to your hurt.

Know its not the same as a granddad but I lost one of my dogs a couple of weeks ago and didn't bother to tell my H either as there is little point.

As for the job situation that's crap to happen on top of all this, but as someone who has been made redundant a few times I think you always end up where you are meant to be and each time its happened to me I have ended up in a better job and happier so am sending positive thoughts to you for the same thing.

I could not believe your time line as it is so similar to mine, I got married in April 2005, we met 18 years ago and we have no children either. My situation started this year too.

Anyway take care and lets hope 2016 is a better year for you and every one on here xx

 
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Re: poof and his Vanished
« Reply #9 on: December 17, 2015, 07:54:26 AM »
Thank you all for the kind words about my grandad im sure he is happy now beside my Nan
1Trouble sorry you lost your dog im terrible i actually handle human death alot better then i do with our furry babies may be its because there love is unconditional no MLC with them and running off with other people.
2015 has sure been hard but i have a job interview Wed so fingers crossed 2016 will be better for us all
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Married 11 July 2005
been together 18 years
BD 3 august 2015
moved out to live with OW 3 august 2015
No children
H has vanished no contact
living in home he is paying half At the moment

 

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