[in it]

You are damn right you deserve better than this.

Circular conversations will get you no where. So stop having them with him.

[Ready2Transform]

He is not even close to seeing the power lies within to stop the cycling. I believe you'll know he's there when he seeks non-court ordered psychiatric help. He has a lot of issues, and he knows that, but as long as he runs from them, it won't get better.

The marriage hurts. Give yourself time and space to grieve. It punched me in the gut harder than I expected, but I'm okay now.

But be mindful of some things regarding the union, too. If it's not legal - how does this impact his probation? Because bigamy is a crime, and committing a crime while on probation may nullify the probation, correct? Does his probation officer know what's going on?

If it IS legal - transfer as many joint assets as possible right now into your name. Bank account will become half hers. House will become half hers. That's a lot of why these women do it. If you can get a text or email where he declares it to be yours - all the better, but not as legal as legally making it all yours. This is to protect what you've shared, and most importantly - the kids.

Have a backup plan if she suddenly starts pushing for visitation with the kids out there. Not to be scary, but we know from other threads here that sometimes they just do it to be mean to us, because they CAN. Go into mama bear mode.

[blackice]

His probation officer knows his love life is extremely complicated and he wasnt really happy about him getting married to ow cause he knows how unstable it is. He'll be off probation soon, well supervised probation at least. He will be on unsupervised. He isnt on my house stuff so no worries there and he will be taken off the bank account soon. As far as visitation goes, she isnt allowed near the kids. He has to come here or we go see him and he stays with us at a hotel. She hates them and they hate her.

Im not really upset by any of this. I thought I would be but im not.

Oh im not haveing circular conversations with him. Its him and ow that are going in circles. I end things when they get repetitive. I dont entertain his nonsense. Last night i hung up on him. I dont care anymore.

[blackice]

So I just learned that ow isnt even telling anyone they are married. Shes saying they are engaged. Showing off the ring her mom bought as her engagement ring. Thats low. I kind of feel bad for him a little on that one. What a b!tc#.

[Thunder]

Good BI,

He has finally done it.  Got you to a point where you have had enough and you don't care.  I feel sorry for him.
He lost something pretty special.

I think Ready is under the assumption that you two were married.  I know you are as far as your culture goes but not recognized by the states.  Right?

[blackice]

According to the law here we are legally married and needed to get a divorce before he married again. Even then hed have to wait 6 months after the divorce was final to get remarried. So yes he is legally my husband. Yes he is currently commiting bigamy. Yes our still legal statud is grounds for an annulment with ow.

But its his mess.

Hes been texting me all night and all day today. Full moon already staring his crazy. He told me if he decided to end it completely with her that he and i had to have a long talk about us. Well duh but im not even talking about it unless he actually does what he says and leaves her. Same old crap. Different day.

[Thunder]

Oh wow, so he married her while still married to you.  That's crazy.  He could go to jail for that.

I wonder if she knows this.

[Thunder]

BI,

I was just reading some stuff on common law marriages.  Not many states have that.
Did you know that if he marries it's null, not valid?  Interesting.   

[Thunder]

BI,

You have been on my mind a lot lately.  I hope everything is ok.

Please update us when you can....or even a hi so we know you are ok.   
XO

[Chookie]

Thinking of you too, BI.