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#30: January 14, 2016, 06:49:28 PM
Male - 4 months shy of 50 at BD 2011.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#31: January 14, 2016, 06:57:40 PM
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#32: January 14, 2016, 07:09:43 PM
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#33: January 14, 2016, 07:20:56 PM
Male 44 at BD-angry antics started a few years prior
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#34: January 14, 2016, 08:18:17 PM
Male - 42 (BD was 2 weeks after his 42nd birthday)

Behaviors started changing 18 - 24 moths before BD.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#35: January 14, 2016, 08:25:33 PM
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#36: January 14, 2016, 08:33:39 PM
Male; 55 at BD.  Not really a 'mid' life crisis unless he's planning to live to 110.
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#37: January 14, 2016, 08:58:36 PM
He was 39 at BD, but had at least 18 months of funk before, with the most visible signs of something wrong around the time of his high school reunion at 38. GAH! So typical! He'll be 44 next week. Looks like he's aged 20 years.
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#38: January 14, 2016, 09:44:13 PM
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Re: Age crisis hit your spouse
#39: January 14, 2016, 11:04:06 PM
My H was 44 at BD (about 4 years of increasingly scary rage before that). Returned at 46, half-cooked. He's now 48 and I think (slowly uncrossing fingers) that he's back to status quo ante. Mostly.
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