[OverlyAttatchedWifey]

Wow Air, lot of stuff you said really hit a note. Particularly:

I accept now that people come in all different flavors.
Some of those flavors I don't want or need.

That's a very elegant way to look at things. You sound like you've come to a great place of acceptance without being bitter.

I have no idea how I might react to H is he ever crossed my doorway - but I do know I no longer chase people to secure a relationship with them.

It's so crazy how much our spouses can strike us so deeply, which is why I think we marry them. When it's good, it's like they have a direct link to nurturing our souls.

What you wrote about chasing people totally makes sense. There's a difference between presenting yourself as like-able, and needing everyone to like you. Some people just don't like anything that doesn't serve them. Your post really made me reflect on some of my own tendencies.

[Watcher]

Yes, I am less tolerant with disrespect now. I have no problem speaking my mind now whereas I used to let things slide in the past. Sometimes my responses to disrespect feel involuntary. I'm not nasty about it, I just stop it in its tracks now. Sometimes Im halfway through a response before I even catch myself. LOL