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#30: January 26, 2016, 08:51:24 PM
May. Memorial Day to be exact. Moved out in August.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#31: January 26, 2016, 09:13:19 PM
BD was May 2011
He left October 2011
I think the affair started in October 2010.


There used to be a place to post surveys....I can't find it tho.

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Re: What month was your BD?
#32: January 27, 2016, 05:27:41 AM
calamity, there used to be "Polls" too but I don't see them anymore.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#33: January 27, 2016, 07:26:54 AM
April 2015 - a Week before his 44th BDay. 
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Re: What month was your BD?
#34: January 27, 2016, 07:28:50 AM
Whoa! All BDs in April. Full affair started in August and he was in LOVE in October.

That is fascinating stuff. Kind of like PMS in women but annually instead of monthly, which, it turns out, is a manufactured cycle. Left to our own in the wild we would not have menstrual cycles nearly as often. I am laughing to myself at the moment thinking "Thank goodness for menopause." My cycles are slowing way down now. I get minor mood swings which is the only way I know that I am entering a cycle because the calendar no longer does me any good. Nothing like it was in my prime.

I wonder if we could sneakily manage their diets to handle the hormonal changes throughout the year. I have to do a little reading on this. Thank you for starting such an interesting discussion! I will have to read the responses to see what the men think.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#35: January 27, 2016, 11:01:32 AM
BD in February (3 years next week..)
Left in April that year

Fascinating discussion Thunder.

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#36: January 28, 2016, 07:24:59 AM
I wanted to clarify something.  I activated BD.  EX H had already moved into replay in March or April but instead of saying something or BDing he just stopped coming home right after work and didn't come home till 1 or 2 in the morning.   By May I had decided to approach the the mess after he didn't show up and I couldn't find him to help with a concert I was performing with sound.  He came that night, we both had our own cars and I called him on the way home and said you are leaving me aren't you?  I don't know if he would have ever took that first step as that's how he is.  He made things so bad that he was forcing me to make the first step.  Once I did he never looked back.  He was done.  So my BD I produced.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#37: January 28, 2016, 07:49:00 AM
Wow, that's a first UL.  But I believe he would have eventually said something.
I have heard of MLCer's deliberately be so hateful the spouse has no alternative but to kick them out because their too cowardly to do it themselves.

So March/April?  Right?   :)
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#38: January 28, 2016, 07:51:51 AM
July.
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Re: What month was your BD?
#39: January 28, 2016, 07:56:00 AM
Was that you or her J?

Did you go through a crisis, too?
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