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Offline Reinventing

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My Story Reconnecting Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #30 on: July 31, 2018, 03:00:47 AM »
Jagger, it might help newbies to know how you protected yourself financially.

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Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #31 on: July 31, 2018, 10:27:33 AM »
Attaching....thanks for sharing your story!
2019 - 365 New Opportunities  Bring It On!

I choose to feel blessed - I choose to feel grateful
I choose to be excited - I choose to be thankful

BD 10 29 2017  Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3/5/18 OW moved/H moved in with F
3/19/18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW in another State
9.4.18  Moved back...Living with Parents/OW Out of State 
11.1.18  Moved somewhere  Part of H's belonging are boxed on parents side porch
Nov 19 - OW moved back.  Living w/her D
Nov 19 - H started visiting on holidays
Jan 2019 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings

Started Dating - Spring 1983
Married - August 1985

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs

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Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #32 on: July 31, 2018, 02:52:46 PM »
Jagger, thank you for updating your situation! I followed you right from when I found HS. I'm so happy to hear you're reconciling and I really appreciate the advice you're giving us all, it's brilliant! I'm so grateful to learn from someone who's been through it.

I hope things keep getting better and better for your little
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OW Physical Affair. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 50 last year.

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Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #33 on: July 31, 2018, 03:09:18 PM »
I'm with Limitless and the other's, not seeing ANY SAD SACK here!  Just a brave, smart, beautiful lady, who knows her worth.

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« Reply #34 on: August 01, 2018, 06:05:47 AM »
Good to read your strong powerful update Jagger!

Love it!
Hurting people hurt people :(

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Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #35 on: August 01, 2018, 05:11:45 PM »
I belong to this club and I think that I always will. It is important to me that I remember,  and that I pay it foward in any small way that I can.

Hadn’t thought of it like this before, we will always belong here.

Lovely to hear your story and update Jagger
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BD1 - 2016
BD2 - 2017
PA with MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2017 then EA
H left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents
Bought a family Puppy mid 2018 - referred to as ‘P’

Link to advice by my mentor, Phoenix, on what to tell the children about H leaving - reply #33 (it had a glitch)

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« Reply #36 on: August 03, 2018, 03:34:34 PM »
Jagger, a wonderful update. So glad that you are reconciling. I am sure it is no picnic. I hope to hear an update after you return from your vacation. You are awesome!

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Re: Class of 2011...changes
« Reply #37 on: August 16, 2018, 01:37:27 AM »
Jagger I am happy to hear someone from the class of 2011 is reconciling. I hope to hear more....

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« Reply #38 on: August 16, 2018, 05:32:23 AM »
Thanks Jagger for this update. I never read your initial story but suspect it was similar to all of us . I agree with so many things that you have said and I act accordingly. I like  "who cares if you scare the squirrel away ?"... the fact is , he is already gone and left a massive disaster in his wake. I don't "pretzel"... not sure I know how and I sure as hell was not going to learn. You get to a point of just so "done" utterly done that I just said what needed sayin and went zero contact. No smile and nod, no light and breezy ( I get it but its not for me ) and no "competing" for him or trying not to poke the beast. I truly felt that there would NEVER be a way to recover from this anyway... so I "monstered ". I was done. It helped going NO contact as there was little opportunity to be in conflict with him after he left our home. We are also " re-connecting...likely more reconciling " , in counselling and trying to undo trauma ..not an easy feat . Thanks for posting.
Married April 1985
5 children
Bomb Drop April 2013
Thrown out of house August 2013
Affair discovered November 2013 (i guessed who)
Home December 3 2013
The Journey Of Reconciliation .. is for the brave .

Anger is like a candle in the wind ... it blows out the light of all reason.

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« Reply #39 on: August 16, 2018, 02:45:42 PM »
Thank you Jagger for continuing to share your journey!!! As a member of the class of 2015 I appreciate still getting sage advice and reflections from those who have gone before me. I can’t imagine where I would be without all the help I have received on this Forum!!!
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W 58
M 22 Years
2 AD both married from my first M
BD 12/15 moved out-in replay, vanisher, MOW in Atlanta
D 2/17


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