[Savoir Faire]

In the light purple/dark purple reconnection threads, there are at least two who were divorced and got back together. 

I went through them to see exactly what you are UL, people who got back after divorce.

I am sorry I can't remember who they are, but someone will pop along with the information soon I hope.

[UnconditionalLove]

Thanks Savior!  I can look them up.  I didn't think to do that.

Thanks for sharing Shadoe.

[Ready2Transform]

This is great thanks!
Ready I need to find the site you are talking about.  I need some hope. LOL!
Thanks

Here you go! https://www.rejoiceministries.org/

There's a daily email that can be encouraging. I'm not a covenant keeper, but even I like it. She puts out "Saturday Testimonials" every week and sometimes on Thursdays there's a bonus "Lunchtime Testimonials" email with positive standing stories.

I've bought one of Bob's books and found comfort in it about what his mindset was when he was in the "far country". They don't refer to it as MLC, but I think that's what most cases there are.

[lawprofessor]

 Is it possible ?

I absolutely believe it is possible.

Just as at times the MLC person is convinced the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, the divorce document can be seen as such by some.

I know one man who was gone for 10 years, divorced his wife, married OW, and had a child with her.  Some 9 years after the birth ex wife found him on her porch one afternoon.  He blurted out he didn't know what happened to him, that he thought he lost his mind, but had now found it, that OW was everything wife had said and more, that he woke up one morning, looked over and felt like the wrong woman was in his bed and he filed for divorce within a few days.  The man and his ex wife have been together now for over 5 years.

A second example is my ex who now wants to come back. 

There is always hope when love remains and both parties are willing.

Good grief, I am sure I don't sound like myself to some, rather Pollyanna-ish.  Pardon that Please.   

[Velika]

My parents had friends whose wife had MLC and affair with a neighbor likely resulting in love child. (Not acknowledged by her.) She left the husband and married the neighbor. The husband, totally blindsided, eventually remarried.

Over ten years later, they got back together. Interestingly, the now adult children (three) were furious. I think for all the unnecessary suffering they had put them through.

[UnconditionalLove]

Law, I am missing your threads.  Can you lead me to what you have been going through lately?

Glad I started this thread.  Thanks everyone!

[speed racer]

Hello,
I was wondering if there are any Spouses out there who left/divorced and came to the conclusion
that their marriage wasn't the unhappy life that they had decided it was. If this did happen to you,
what was it that changed your opinion?  How did you ask your spouse or ex-spouse if "R" is possible?
How did you show them or how did they show you that they was in to restoring the marriage 200%?

I don't know if there are any leavers/returners out there, but your information would be extremely helpful
to us LBS who are standing.

I hope your marriages happy now and that you continue to love each other and hold each other with
mutual respect.

Thanks,
Speed

[in it]

I'm not one of the "happy ending"cases.
I didn't think the relationship was that unhappy.

The ex divorced me.I left then returned a year after the divorce was final.
Biggest mistake I ever made.

After 3 years of NC? I realize now I'm happier and have a lot more peace and freedom   than I ever had with him . So much for the 28 years I was with him. I look at it as a waste of my time. I not bitter surprisingly. I just invested in someone who isn't capable of thinking of anyone else but himself.I have forgiven myself for being so very naive.

I consider the realtionship I was in with him abusive.
His MLC was extreme.

[Anjae]

speed racer, I merged your thread into another one on the same subject.

This is the link of board members reconnections/reconciliations. http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1872.0

And here is a link with several return stories from non-board members. It is thread number 3 on the matter, you will find links to the previous ones inside each thread: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=5763.0

Thread to the discussion on the return stories (the discussion is done in a different thread): http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3912.0

Board members with light purple icons are reconnected, board members with dark Pepe are reconciled.

Hope this helps.

[xyzcf]

I would add that reading Stayed's husband's letter is one of the things what convinced me that MLCers do return

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=483.0