Beacon,
I've just been catching up on your new thread. Our situations with our W's seem so similar. I'm so impressed with the boundaries you are setting. It takes a lot of strength to move forward.
I'm learning a little more everyday not to try to read into W's behavior, especially the new tearful her. I was wanting to think that the softer side meant something, but I'm learning it is just a point in the cycle. I'm feeling stronger the better I get with a kind, firm and neutral stance. It also seems to helping that my clinging boomerang left the country for a week.
You are an impressive person. Hang it there.