Beacon, I absolutely agree that you need to make space in order to heal. It would be extremely difficult and take a much longer time to achieve with the wound constantly being picked at and scabbed. At first, it seems totally counterintuitive to go no contact, but honestly I don't think they miss it...they just do it to anchor check a lot of times to be sure you stay in your place.
Keeping them eating that cake gives them the best of both worlds, and slows their progress. It's a limbo for both of you.