Beacon,
I'm impressed and encouraged by your courage, strength, patience and compassion. You sound hopeful, but solid in yourself. That can be a hard balance to maintain as we all know.
I've always seen parallels in our two situations and they continue to happen. Though I'm feeling more at peace with everything I'm still a newbie at 10 months since BD and 7 months since she moved out. I hope things in my case are moving a bit faster because the OM was an EA that, I believe, ended about the time W moved out. The spending, drinking and partying seem to be slowing down. Mutual friends say she looks depressed and she is spending most evenings alone at home. Her less frequent monstering seems half-hearted and she is making up reasons to stop by the house. But as our 15 year-old daughter said yesterday, "Mom is only half baked. Leave her in the oven until she's done."
My thoughts and prayers are with you Beacon.
Blue