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#70: August 08, 2016, 12:33:59 AM
Yes, I'll be there 1T  :)
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#71: August 08, 2016, 03:41:43 AM
I want to share something with you from the book I am reading ....

" Your emotions are a critical component.  Learn to listen to them - they are an important feedback
system that tells you of your body's instinctive response to the vibrational state you are creating.
You are creating a vibrational frequency with whatever you are giving your attention to - the thoughts
you are thinking, the beliefs you are contemplating, the television show you are watching, the music
you are listing to, the book you are reading etc.

Your feelings are part of your internal guidance system.
When you are feeling joy and a sense of expansion, it simply means you are on course - the things
you are focusing on, the thoughts you are thinking or creating, the ideas you are entertaining and the
activities you are engaged in are actively moving you in the direction of your purpose, dreams and desires.

When you are feeling anger, sadness, depression and hopelessness - any feelings that give you a sense
of physical contraction - then you are thinking thoughts and attending to things that are not taking you toward
your purpose, dreams and desires.  This is feedback that is saying your are off course.  Your emotions are
telling you that its time to switch gears.  They are telling you its time to think more uplifting thoughts, change your
focus, change the channel, change the topic of discussion and go do something different to shift your energy and
bring you feelings of joy and expansion.

Since your vibrational state is what attracts the objects of your desire, it is imperative to keep your emotions as
positive as possible.  Strive to keep your emotions in the positive range - feelings like joy, love, happiness
satisfaction, exhilaration, relief, pride, appreciation, relaxation and serenity.

These feelings will realise your vibrational level and create a "vibration match" for the experiences that you
expect to have when your dreams do come to fruition.
Remember, like attracts like.

So by deliberately creating the positive emotional states that match the feelings we have on completion and
fulfillment of our goals and desires we are creating an energy field that will attract what we want.

This is why learning to respond to circumstances instead of just reacting to them is so important. 

So do the things that make you feel good - be passionate and enthusiastic about your life!
When you feel emotions fully, deeply, you radiate more intense frequencies into the universe.

Researchers are discovering that what you are feeling is actually far more important than what
you are thinking or saying.  They are a true indicator of the thoughts you are having and whether
or not you are acting in accordance with your personal truth, your heartfelt desires.
Don't ignore them or try to reason your feelings away.
First, notice them, then if they are not in the positive range (hope, expectation, acceptance, appreciation
love and joy), either release them or simply choose a better thought.
Choose a thought that has a better feeling, or simply change what you are doing, go for a walk, turn off
the television, pet your cat, take charge and shift your emotions back to the positive range"


I personally, find it works better for me when I use imagery so if you imagine a seismograph that measures the strength
of an earthquake, then imagine a line which separates positive and negative energy.

You want to ensure the needle is in the positive range as much as you can.

If you feel like your head is open like a funnel, you are walking tall and feeling good, happy content you are in the positive
areas...

If you feel small, anxious, tense, closed off, tearful, frightened etc....GET THE NEEDLE BACK UP TO THE LINE AND OVER INTO POSITIVE!!

Do something every day to prove to yourself that YOU MATTER

Learn to listen to your emotions and know when you are on course

Staying with your needle in the negative zone will only make you attract other negative thougths, feelings emotions and along
with that negative people (misery loves company!)

See you tonight 10pm GMT for some universal positive thinking xx
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#72: August 08, 2016, 06:57:42 AM
BUMPING THIS UP
Positive thinking time tonight 10pm GMT
and for those who do not know what this is about then please check out original post below


Great ....thanks for all those who are joining me  :)

This isn't just for those who believe in positive energy, its also for anyone who believes in organised religion too, and the power of prayer

Those who believe in the law of attraction will know how powerful thoughts can be, but for those who doubt this or who are not religious let me give you these two analogies

If you walk into a football stadium before a game (or baseball stadium for our American friends) you will feel an incredible energy, you cannot feel it or touch it but you know its there

Similarly if you were to walk into a room just after two people have had an argument you will be able to sense the atmosphere the negative energy......

Nevergoingtogiveyouup and Eva's, two LBS's on here a few years back did something along these lines, together and they had an amazing result.
Now I am not saying your H's will come back if we do this, but it will lift your energy and you will start to be more confident and more positive in general and when you are like that you open yourselves up like a funnel for the universe, God or your angels (whatever you believe in) to help you.
Whilst you are negative, not only are you not listening to advice from well meaning friends and family, you are not listening to your inner voice, your intuition either.

So lets generate some positive energy on this board by collectively 'meeting' and sending out positive thoughts in the universe.

I am proposing that we have certain times where we all 'meet' over the ether and generate positive thoughts for all the LBSs and MLC'ers

During this time we visualise the fog clearing from our MLC'ers head and we ask for the veils to be lifted from their eyes and we imagine that we are strong and we lift our thoughts and send positive thoughts and prayers for everyone to find happiness again.

Obviously, there are different time lines we need a meeting time for each time Zone

So for all those in the UK I would like to propose we 'meet' at 22:00 Monday evenings

If others from different time Zones could come on and propose your 'meet' times, then we can get this going.

Along with a collective meet I also want everyone to repeat these positive thoughts sessions in their own time each day, for the more religious this can be done in the form of a prayer.
Just 5 minutes each day

Along with these collective postive thoughts I also want to get everyone on here into the habit of repeating positive affirmations and statements throughout the day and particularly when you are about to go to sleep

I want you all to keep reminding yourselves of the following

I AM SPECIAL, I AM STRONG, I AM BEAUTIFUL, I AM FUNNY, I AM KIND, I AM LOVING, I AM LOYAL, I AM CLEVER, I AM THE PRIZE

And if any of you ever think of the OW I want you to push those thoughts from your head and repeat the above until those thoughts are gone

Lets turn the energy around
And if anyone else has any more positive ideas then please add them xx
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#73: August 08, 2016, 07:12:10 AM
I continue to be there!!
Thank you.
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#74: August 08, 2016, 07:23:25 AM
Attaching, need that positivity today. Love the idea. 🙂
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#75: August 08, 2016, 10:50:05 AM
BUMPING THIS UP
Positive thinking time tonight 10pm GMT
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#76: August 08, 2016, 01:25:12 PM
I love positive affirmations.  Thanks for putting this together.
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#77: August 08, 2016, 02:07:48 PM

Do something every day to prove to yourself that YOU MATTER


Can you throw out some examples, 1T?
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#78: August 08, 2016, 02:19:03 PM
Hope everyone got something out of this time tonight (or today depending on where you are in the world)

Ok things that prove YOU matter
Can be as silly as making sure the house is tidy and clean FOR YOU not just because you have visitors but because its nice for YOU.

Getting a pedicure or a massage

Have a lovely bath

Treating yourself to a new lipstick or some underwear/clothes/shoes (depending on your budget)

Spending time doing what YOU want to do and putting time aside for YOU

Meditating, exercise, researching, walking 

Putting yourself first instead of what you see as your duty to others

Constantly reminding youself how special you are, take time out to write a list of things you LOVE about yourself and your special qualities

Decide from today that you are going to value yourself and don't put up with any one who makes you feel inadequate, guilty or bad about yourself

Every day be aware of the negative thoughts that invade your mind and making a conscious effort to reprogram your mind.

Read the exert from the book I am reading (see post I put up earlier today) and be aware of your own 'seismograph' needle and make sure you are in the positive zone. You will know when you are in the positive zone because of how your body reacts.....

I am sure there are loads more but that's just some things to be getting on with 
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Re: POSITIVE THINKING TIME
#79: August 08, 2016, 05:29:16 PM
I took a "I'm Grateful for..." walk this evening.  Spent time breathing and thinking about nothing important, then every couple of minutes I would spend time mentally thinking about all the things I'm grateful for. 

Sent out positive thoughts and energy for everyone as well.  Feeling much better tonight than I did this morning.  1T, this is a great idea. 

Got this list of things to do to be good to your Self as well so thought I would share them.

  • Keep a Journal
  • Play the Piano
  • Sign up for a yoga class
  • Take the stairs instead of the elevator
  • Dance around the living room
  • Watch a sunset
  • Run on the Beach
  • Find something good in everyone you meet
  • Laugh at yourself
  • Hug a Child
  • Express Appreciation
  • Set one short term goal for self improvement
  • Receive a compliment without apology
  • Have a good cry
  • Take 10 deep breaths
  • Reward yourself on reaching a goal
  • Day Dream
  • Doodle
  • Take a trip
  • Take a walk in the grass with your shoes off
  • Waste time without feeling guilty
  • Look out a window
  • Make S'mores
  • Barbecue
  • Take a bath for as long as you want
  • Go for a walk with a child

Enjoy. :)
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1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don't take anything personally.
3. Don't make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.

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