Author Topic: MLC Monster LBS Stages 4  (Read 15058 times)

Offline Thunder

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MLC Monster Re: LBS Stages 4
« Reply #50 on: January 18, 2019, 01:43:15 PM »
Anon it also seems pretty common for the OP to be a co-worker.
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Offline UnconditionalLove

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Re: LBS Stages 4
« Reply #51 on: January 18, 2019, 06:40:37 PM »
The OW or should I say child (20 years younger) was a student of my EX husband.  He was asked to help her with a research project and the rest is history.
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Offline Penelope2018

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Re: LBS Stages 4
« Reply #52 on: March 24, 2019, 05:36:36 AM »
My xh's ap was an employee who is also 20 years younger than him. He's older than her mother  :o. I wonder if she'll be worried he'll hit on her mom. ;D That's a disturbing thought.

I think I'm in acceptance now but I'm not sure. I rarely get angry anymore. In fact, when I think about the things he's done, I imagine I should be but I can't. Definitely past denial. I know bargaining is out of the question. I will never beg for him. Not worth it. I've only cried in front of him once during this ridiculous situation and it hurt my pride. Never again.
MLC XH - 42 currently
M - 34 currently
BD - July 2017
OW discovered Aug 2017
EA started Dec 2016? PA start unsure
Filed for D - Aug 2017
D - Nov 2017
I moved out for four months
Moved back in for 8.5 months
Moved back out 12/2018 - practicing NC
Married - 15 Y
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Offline Rising Phoenix

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Re: LBS Stages 4
« Reply #53 on: March 24, 2019, 12:50:47 PM »
H ow is a younger coworker. Never been married and no kids she is 37 and h is 52 xx
Me 51
H52
Married still, 22yrs
Together 30yrs
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!

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Re: LBS Stages 4
« Reply #54 on: March 24, 2019, 04:05:16 PM »
Penelope, I cried in front of my H once over OW, and it hurt my pride, mainly because he walked away and left me crying in the middle of a field.

I rarely cry any more, rarely feel much anger any more, bargaining is all done with, not bargaining ever again. I hope these are good signs.
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OW Physical Affair. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 50 last year.

 

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