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OP: February 17, 2011, 07:34:59 PM
Okay, this is stemming from having seen the words "passive aggressive" and "conflict avoidant" in several threads to describe the WAS and then reading a recent article about early male pattern baldness increasing the risk of prostate cancer 2.5 times the norm. In describing the increased cancer risk, the article stated that the men who go bald quite young- starting in their 20´s- have a much higher hormone level than other men. Thus my question is, are these men more susceptible to a more dramatic MLC (versus a transition) because they experience a greater drop in hormone levels than other men upon moving into middle age?

Is there a connection between guys who go bald early and those who experience these drastic personality changes as we have all seen up close and personal? My H fits the early balding pattern and I remember the  description of the tomato from the pizza box incident sliding down the exposed forehead of unfortunate H (Voyager´s?).

Humor me and let me know- balding or hairy?

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Re: MLC common denominator?
#1: February 17, 2011, 07:51:41 PM
LOL Hairy and no grey
But conflict avoidant and passive aggressive

Actually H didn't need to shave regualrly till he was almost 30.

It will be interesting to see if H is an odd one out.

But that couldalso fit in with the hormone drop, becasue if it had been increasing till only a few years ago the drop...
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#2: February 17, 2011, 08:16:22 PM
Lots of hair, grey very young and big time conflict avoider
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#3: February 17, 2011, 08:23:30 PM
Lots of hair, lots of new gray the past couple of years, conflict avoider. 
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#4: February 17, 2011, 08:40:08 PM
Lots of hair, people pleaser, fearful, abandonment issues, a little gray, eyesight going downhill for the last year (readers only, but you know how that feels!) and hard of hearing since BD. Erectile Dysfunction for at least 5 years... he's only 46, but has alcohol issues and high cholesterol. I think the depression and now outrageous amounts of alcohol and constant driving for work (like a truck driver!) are the actual culprits of the ED issue. He was a virile stud up until about 5 years ago...
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#5: February 17, 2011, 09:14:40 PM
Lots of hair.  Wavy, curly.  Very gray.

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Re: MLC common denominator?
#6: February 17, 2011, 09:37:37 PM
Receding and thinning.  Very conflict avoidant - which he thinks makes him heroic.
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#7: February 17, 2011, 11:13:19 PM
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I remember the  description of the tomato from the pizza box incident sliding down the exposed forehead of unfortunate H (Voyager´s?).

Yep it was my h's balding and definitely less hairy head which played host to the tomato. There's a kind of poetic justice for me knowing he will always be immortalised as the balding non hairy conflict avoidant bloke with a slice of tomato on his head. It brings me a sense of peace and inner calm. :) :) :)
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#8: February 17, 2011, 11:28:12 PM
Receding hairline, v. conflict avoidant and passive aggressive. Why was I with him?  ;)
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Re: MLC common denominator?
#9: February 18, 2011, 04:02:37 AM
Quote from: Faith on February 17, 2011, 09:37:37 PM
Receding and thinning.  Very conflict avoidant - which he thinks makes him heroic.

Mine H too! And now he is growing the comb over and actually has a mullet. Or did the last time I saw him.... LOL
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