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Offline theheartknowsTopic starter

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« on: October 17, 2016, 11:26:01 PM »
A letter came to H under my name at my address the other day (weird.) I texted him to let him know.

He answered, "Thanks for letting me know.I will check it out when I come back. We are in Kauai. We just got off a water tour."

Me: Wow!

H: Yes, for 8 days! I saved up my bonus. It is very pretty here. The water is so clear!!

H sounded just like a little boy reporting to his mom about summer camp. He even saved up his own allowance to go. He was too excited for me to be angry for long.

Wow! Is right...too weird.



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« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2016, 09:49:39 AM »
Wow!!! That is so awful!!!! It is exactly has you observed his being a boy and not a man!!!! The man is who you grieve. Where did he go? Maybe that was him just pretending. I am so sorry that stings!!!
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« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2016, 10:29:10 AM »
Ouch ... I think for me, the worst thing would be the 'we'  ... he could have said I am in  .... wherever.

So sorry tho, you are too kind!
Take care, and big hugs xxx
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« Reply #3 on: October 18, 2016, 03:19:14 PM »
Sorry you had to hear about his adventure. I am certain it must have stung.
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« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2016, 04:02:53 PM »
Thanks for your empathy Shocked, Musica, and Learning. Yes, it stung. It should have been me. Btu didn't sting for long.

Truthfully, I do not think he was boasting to make me feel bad. He was too excited not to tell me because I am the person in his life who has always cared. Not many other people cared (care) about him the way I did. Who else would have wanted to know if he were sick or how his day went at work or what he had for lunch or... all about his exciting vacation.

What is sad, is that he doesn't see the irony of this.
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« Reply #5 on: October 18, 2016, 04:22:43 PM »
I agree that it doesn't seem like it was a vicious revelation on his part, but it was a thoughtless one. What a fool for walking away from you if you are really his only true friend.
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« Reply #6 on: October 18, 2016, 04:43:13 PM »
Although it doesn't seem to be possible, sometimes it is better when I do not know anything about his life.

It still hurts, probably always will but at least the sting is not so sharp nor does it remain so long.

I did find each time he did something that was upsetting, I let go a bit more.

Sending you a ((((HUG)))))
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« Reply #7 on: October 18, 2016, 04:55:09 PM »
We... phew... It really does not seem to have been in ill intent, but it was thoughless. What am I saying, since when MLCer are considerated and think that they may be upsetting/hurting their LBS.

Little excited boy on holidays, he was.

A started a new thread from your today's post. The title can be changed if you want.
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« Reply #8 on: October 18, 2016, 06:04:57 PM »
Hi THK!!

 I find this interesting because I have often referred to my H treating me as if I was his mother since BD.  I thought it was because one of the triggers of his MLC was his mother's passing , but I guess it's common. I'm sorry you got stung ! Sending hugs
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« Reply #9 on: October 18, 2016, 07:26:18 PM »
Thanks all for your encouragement!! You are the best!!
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