[MsT]

In it: (hug) here's to getting new things in your better life

[in it]

LOL! Yeah..there are quite a few things there are that money can't buy. He wanted to play games and give things back to me as HE wanted to. I slammed the door on that big time. I'm not screwing around with someone as violent as he is.
He can shove them up his big fat hairy ass. 

[nah]

He can shove them up his big fat hairy ass. 

Whoa, init, I love it when you get all angry...

OK, I admitted to shaving his back, but I stopped at the waist.  I forgot about the hairy ass, thanks for reminding me, helps with the detachment. 

[in it]

  Yep I shaved the idiots back also. He was WAY TOO MUCH for me to maintain.

Besides whatever "history" there's been there was very little physically to attract me to him.

 I have nothing againest hairy men..I actually like that..I just can't deal with a 350 pound baby.

[nah]

One of the joys I have (beside never having to see the mil again) is that he now has no one to shave his back.  He told me "we aren't there yet" when I asked if the girl did it.  How the hell do you hide a gorilla back from someone you have been living with for almost two years??   

Yep, mine is in the fat old and hairy club.

[MsT]

Ha! I hadn't even thought about who's going to shave his back now! He's so self conscious of his bear body

[in it]

I think the exow did it for him to start with..I didn't. He threatened to find someone else to do it when it ended with her. So that's why I did it.

Uhmmm now I could give a $h!te less who he finds to do it!

Yep and no exmil to deal with either... all she is and was is a massive enabler.

[MsT]

mine is NC with his mom for the last 2 years. It has been so nice! I'm terrified that he's going to go back to her and she will validate all the horrible things he thinks about me, though 
Work it out eventually or no, I'm looking forward to never dealing with that wack job of a woman again, because I intend to come through this with enough of my self confidence back that I will never. ever. again. tolerate the manipulative and insidious and toxic crap she heaped on me.
B!tch.
That felt good 

[in it]

Good ..you will reach a point where you don't give a $h!te what any of them think of you. You stay true to you and you will be just fine. 

[strongFaith34]

What are some of the signs that made you sure your spouse is in MLC?

I experienced the following....
1) Anger phase: constant spewing, avoiding eye contact, hatred towards me
2) Sudden change in the way H dressed & foods he hated now he likes and foods he liked he now hates.
3) New group of friends, Apartment in new city, New church. Losing all attachments to pre-BD life.
4) Sudden desire to exercise and get into shape, running marathons
5) H convinced he is going to die soon, needs to escape.
6) H re-connecting with friends from 20 years ago.
6) "It's my time now"
7) New sports car
"I don't have any feelings towards you." Being completely numb and having no empathy.
9) Treating the spouse like a mother.
10) Hiding cell phones, changing passwords.

I'm just surprised how many others have mentioned the same behavior patterns.