[Does your MLC'er appear to be attracted to you?]

Does your MLC'er appear to be attracted to you?

Never

14 (26.9%)

Occasionally

12 (23.1%)

Most of the time

13 (25%)

Always

3 (5.8%)

No contact

10 (19.2%)

Total Members Voted: 51

[Still]

I am interested in learning what others have experienced. My MLC'er does not appear to be attracted to me in any way. He was a very affectionate person pre-MLC, but never comes anywhere near me. He acts as if I am just furniture most of the time.

I have seen many of you indicate that your H/W still has a noticeable attraction to you. I thought it would be interesting to see how common this is.

[OldPilot]

I am interested in learning what others have experienced. My MLC'er does not appear to be attracted to me in any way. He was a very affectionate person pre-MLC, but never comes anywhere near me. He acts as if I am just furniture most of the time.

I have seen many of you indicate that your H/W still has a noticeable attraction to you. I thought it would be interesting to see how common this is.

YUP!  DITTO.  Now did we vote the same?

[LoveMeMyself]

Still:

    I'm divorced and have very little to NO contact with my xH.  However, when all of this first started he treated me like garbage on his feet.  Before BD I had noticed that he had stopped holding my hand........we held hands ALL the time.  He had pulled so far away from me that he was literally falling off the edge of the bed........this is something I realized much later.  You know how you sit and think about things and start seeing the "signs" afterwards.  When my xH first left me he couldn't stand for me to touch him.........I remembered one time in particular I tried to kiss him and he turned away from me making a face like a child!  I was so hurt.  Then we went through the stage of him not even making eye contact with me.  Things changed again and I was able to touch him and hug him but I always waited for him to give me the sign that it was alright.  The last time I actually saw him we hugged and I kissed his neck.  It didn't seem to bother him or upset him.  It's been nearly 5 months since.  Not having him around hurts and I miss him but I don't think I could stand to be treated like I had a disease or something......unable to touch.

[trusting]

My H was still attracted to me the first half of the MLC and showed it, but since the depression hit has shown very little sign of being attracted, certainly not outwardly. 

He has complimented twice in the past 2.5 years on my appearance (and used to frequently pre-MLC), the last time being about a year ago now.

He has stopped the "cootie" behavior though and will give me hugs at times but generally keeps his distance.  If we do accidentally brush by each other or something like that he doesn't jump back like he is afraid of being infected. 

[Dontgiveup]

One hug in the last year for me.....in October 2010.  She made a comment about a month before that I was looking thin (yes, darlin' it's called the LBS diet).

[LifeGoesOn]

After reading the responses, I think maybe I have confused the question.

H is not affectionate towards me. Never was much. BUT he was always attracted, somewhat of a letch. He still checks me out, leers with his old funny letch smile, but no longer gropes. He has reached for me a few times but caught himself

[Moving Forward]

My MLC husband and I used to be very affectionate and touchy feely couple - as his MLC developed I got all of the usual sleeping on the edge of the bed, not holding hands, wiping his mouth after I'd kissed him (like a child) and turning away from me and going stiff as a board when I tried to touch him.

Since he has left he hasn't told me I'm attractive or anything even remotely resembling a compliment but he has looked at me a couple of times (when I had to collect the children from his flat around Xmas)  and I got a pre MLC smile (it shook me up as I hadn't seen one for so long and I saw his twinkly blue eyes for a flash (it was there! I am certain I didn't imagine it). I know he thinks I'm attractive from that look - his OW is an ex from 25 years ago and she looks just like his Mum and is wrinkly and all of my friends thought she was 55 (she is 42!).


Interesting topic.

P
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Choose Life

[LoveMeMyself]

My xH has told me in person and in text that he thinks I'm still very attractive.  He made a statement that he would be "afraid" to be alone with me as he felt we would end up in bed together.  I feel like he is still attracted to me (physically).........maybe that's why he doesn't want to be around me.  He thinks it will contradict everything he has done.  Not sure.

[Still]

One hug in the last year for me.....in October 2010.

My last hug was March 17, 2009.

[BonBon]

Well,
How does one answer this when one is hugged, kissed, cuddled all the time and has some level of sex a few times a month but then told "I'm not sexually attracted to you AT ALL"?

Gotta love the MLCer!