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#50: November 13, 2016, 06:10:15 AM
From the link I posted it's clear which of these doors you've chosen for now, Evas,but there is a choice .
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Here’s the setup that triggered them.

1. They believe they are smart and well-informed.

2. Their good judgement told them Trump is OBVIOUSLY the next Hitler, or something similarly bad.

3. Half of the voters of the United States – including a lot of smart people – voted Trump into office anyway.

Those “facts” can’t be reconciled in the minds of the anti-Trumpers. Mentally, something has to give. That’s where cognitive dissonance comes in.

There are two ways for an anti-Trumper to interpret that reality. One option is to accept that if half the public doesn’t see Trump as a dangerous monster, perhaps he isn’t. But that would conflict with a person’s self-image as being smart and well-informed in the first place. When you violate a person’s self-image, it triggers cognitive dissonance to explain-away the discrepancy.
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Re: US ELECTION #2
#51: November 13, 2016, 07:00:02 AM
One of the things I remember from about 5th grade was my teacher explaining that America is looked up to all over the world BECAUSE we are a 'melting pot' where everyone can come, be welcome and prosper.

After all of this bigotry and ignorance elected to the highest office in the world that showed the opposite, wonder what we look like now?

(BTW, I don't see Trump as a Republican. I see him as a bigot, a misogynist a racist and a bunch of other negative terms, not a Republican.)

What does the Statue of Liberty mean to Trump? How do we explain this to children?

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Re: US ELECTION #2
#52: November 13, 2016, 07:24:34 AM
From the link I posted it's clear which of these doors you've chosen for now, Evas,but there is a choice .
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Here’s the setup that triggered them.

1. They believe they are smart and well-informed.

2. Their good judgement told them Trump is OBVIOUSLY the next Hitler, or something similarly bad.

3. Half of the voters of the United States – including a lot of smart people – voted Trump into office anyway.

Those “facts” can’t be reconciled in the minds of the anti-Trumpers. Mentally, something has to give. That’s where cognitive dissonance comes in.

There are two ways for an anti-Trumper to interpret that reality. One option is to accept that if half the public doesn’t see Trump as a dangerous monster, perhaps he isn’t. But that would conflict with a person’s self-image as being smart and well-informed in the first place. When you violate a person’s self-image, it triggers cognitive dissonance to explain-away the discrepancy.

Nearly half of all registered voters didn't vote. Trump won by an extremely small margin, and Clinton won the popular vote. A minority of Americans elected Trump into office, and surely some unenthusiastically. These are just people who can vote; there are many in the U.S. who, due to age, immigration status, or other circumstances cannot cast a ballot.

This list is full of logical fallacies. I actually think most Americans were lukewarm on both candidates. Many people want to protest the more divisive things Trump said, and we should all be interested in preserving the right to assemble peacefully.

People would do more to collectively asset their power by mass boycotts, however. This was also the lesson of MLK and Gandhi.
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#53: November 13, 2016, 07:37:57 AM
Living in the Midwest, I am no expert on Brexit.  But this conversation has been very interesting and I see many similarities as to the issue of immigration.  Yes countries need immigrants.  However in the Midwest there is the same undertone that somehow we are losing the part that of the culture related to "American ness".  For many that centers around the issues of the economy and immigration, but its really the general fairness idea.  Here its the seeminly never ending flood of illegal immigrants from Central and South America. 

Its a class issue as well.  No one complains when doctors and scientists immigrate here.  But there are huge numbers of complaints about no skilled and low skilled immigrants, largely illegal, that are here.

And its the attitude of many of these immigrants that irritates here in the US, especially here in the Midwest.  I can't speak to other areas as this is where I live daily.   

When my parents arrived here, the first order of business was to learn English.  Our native language was spoken at home, but in public English was spoken or you kept quiet until you learned the correct words.  Speaking X was embarrassing, to them as they were now Americans.  There were no options to push 1 for English 2 for Spanish or clerks that only spoke Spanish or expectations of special allowances in schools. 

2.  A few months after they became citizens the Vietnam War broke out.  My grandmother walked her 6 sons down to the military recruiting center and signed them all up for service.  She only asked that her youngest be allowed to stay home and finish high school before he enlisted.  All five of the rest served multiple tours in Vietnam.  Baba felt she owed it to the US for the privilege of living here.  She said we must pay back the country that took us in and gave us the opportunity to have such a good life. 

3.  All six of Baba sons and her daughter went on to earn advanced degrees or were skilled tradesmen.  No ever collected any type of aid from the government.  It would have brought great shame on the family to do so. 

4.  None were ever involved in criminal troubles.  That would have been an even bigger shame. 

5.  Voting day was a huge deal for Baba.  She dressed in her Sunday dress and we all went to vote together.  Then dinner was served and candles were lit and prayers said.  She had poured over newspapers and flyers to make her decision.  Loud talk among the family and debates were had in the months leading up to the election so no one was unfamiliar with any of the issues. 

But the times have changed.  And change is scary for many.

There are fewer and fewer jobs for low and no skilled people of which the perception is that the US already has plenty of no skilled and unskilled workers without adding to the pool.  The argument here in the Midwest goes something like, "No I don't want to pick my own carrots or lettuce or blueberries.  Why not get some of these people laying around on public aid to do it in exchange for their check?". That is anger displaced against other Americans falling on the heads of nameless and faceless immigrants. 

Next comes the argument, "Why should we pay more taxes to help these people and have our wages decline for the pleasure?". That's because not all immigrants stay in the jobs of picking.  Some become tradesmen and more.  So more anger as now some are moving up to better paying jobs.  We had a whole page of jobs in the employment section that required all applicants to be bilingual which leaves out a high percentage of Americans.  More anger. 

Then there are constant screams about the number of aid recipients who are immigrants getting free healthcare when Americans are required to pay for Obamacare.  Again the issue of fairness.  More anger.

Then numbers are trotted out as to the number of crimes committed by illegals.  By now the issue of immigration has been lumped together, illegal and legal, made to be virtually the same in the eyes of many here in the Midwest.  Now "all" are seen as illegal law breakers.  Any easy target for anger, even hatred.

The underlying theme here is Americans are angry about what they see as unfairness.  Some politicians have funneled that anger towards an easy target, immigrants.  It nicely deflects blame to a nameless mass rather than shines the light on the real problem of brokenness in the American governmental system and ineffectual policies.  It is the easier solution that saves the jobs of career politicians.  Find an "other" to hate.  Bread and circuses for the masses at one time.  Nazi Germany.  Stalinist Russia.  All successfully used this tactic at one time or another when the masses were angry.  And for a time it worked.  Economies grew under war machines.  Politicans kept control.  Anger simmered until the next time.  This deflection also allows for Americans to duck responsibility for themselves.  It makes an excuse for why our children are still living at home in their 20's and beyond.  It makes an excuse for not achieving what our parents did.  It makes it OK and almost understandable that men and women walk away from their responsibilities.   Marriage not great?  Its the spouses fault.  Not happy all the time?  Spouse and employer fault.  Children in trouble at school or with the law?  Not their fault.  Not my fault.  They are special and misunderstood.  Can't behave?  Get a pill. Won't listen?  Teachers fault for being boring.  Son an addict?  He gets that from having no father.  Son living in basement?  His ex was a bad wife who bled him dry for child support.  Didn't vote?  Nobody appealed to me and I wasn't familiar with the issues.  Daughter pregnant?  Its the boyfriends fault for not using a condom.

Excuses excuses excuses.  When did personal responsibility die? 

Its something on this board that there have been huge fights over even though we all have so much in common, and great divides between sides have developed between two extremes.  Tough love vs love them back.  They are sick and less responsible for their actions to they are 100% responsible for this mess we all found ourselves in.  Stand forever vs kick them to the curb quickly.  The forum is for standers only vs the forum is for all and we can run around talking about dating like teenagers after their first sexual experience. 

The middle ground is gone, or perhaps has largely gone silent for one reason or another. 

Xenophobia is rising in the US.  The US is a huge Goliath of a Super Power whose activities impact others and scare others.  And the country elected Donald Trump on the slogan of Make America Great Again.

 I'm disturbed for both the future of the US and the future of this forum when the vocal extremes polarize hot button issues as a tool to achieve their goals of control.  It doesn't speak well for the future of either. 

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Re: US ELECTION #2
#54: November 13, 2016, 07:46:48 AM
Velika,

We agree.  Trump was essentially flat with Romney.  Hillary was off 5 million voters from Obamas 2012 number.  A piss poor amount of voters showed up to vote.  Neither candidates inspired people to vote.

I 100% support the protesters right to peaceful protest.  They are acting as a watchdog on Trump.

I was simply emphasizing that it is much easier to demonize the other than to reflect, as Michael Moore (a Bernie fan)has done, and achknowledge the viewpoints of others are legit.  For example, he spoke (NSFW) honestly  of his friends, blue color labor member in Michigan.  Their votes can be be justified and understood from their life experience without being racist, mysoginist, or anti-immigrant.

Watch Michael Moore empathize with a view he strongly disagrees, WITHOUT condemning the voter.
https://youtu.be/YKeYbEOSqYc








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Re: US ELECTION #2
#55: November 13, 2016, 08:27:23 AM
I'm apologizing for going too far, as usual.  I can't stand what has happened in the United States.  I am genuinely concerned.  I do not UNDERSTAND what anybody who is lucky enough to live in NORTH AMERICA has to be disgruntled about... at least not to the point that they bring themselves to vote for a person like Trump.

All that being said... I was out of line.  I know I was. 

For the record, I have not read anything that has been posted on here in the last day and a half.  My sincerest apologies. I hope it works out for you, as you are hoping.

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Re: US ELECTION #2
#56: November 13, 2016, 08:44:21 AM
El Ray, thanks for the link. Absolutely, so important to really examine the motivations of these voters.

I actually think, however, that very "talk-y" types like Moore (and let's be honest virtually everyone else) reinforce the status quo by participating in the idea that these differences of opinion are something that we can simply resolve by discussing.

Organizers could do more for their political goals in a month-long mass boycott or proxy boycott of any number of large corporations than they could in a year or protests or demonstrations.

Maybe this is the overlap of political protest and MLC protest. Action over words.

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Re: US ELECTION #2
#57: November 13, 2016, 09:15:17 AM
I support them too Elray.

How soon people forget the thousands of protesters who came out against Obama.  Pictures if him, Hitler mustache an all. 
Asking him to show his papers!  Also saying "He's not my President!"  ::)

So both parties have had their protesters over the years.

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Re: US ELECTION #2
#58: November 13, 2016, 09:44:38 AM
I keep reading people say "Give Trump a chance." Um do we have any other choice? To be honest, I really don't think Trump himself can believe he won.

I also have been reading things like, Trump will be impeached, or maybe before it really counts some people who cast electoral votes can maybe be persuaded into voting for Hillary for the final and deciding tally, and once Trump starts working, his views won't manifest.  It's not over yet.

One thing for sure is that we have a whole lot of angry people  on both sides.

What I don't understand is if people are concerned about jobs,  most were either outsourced to other countries or have become obsolete due to technology. Why not learn a new skill and seek employment with future growth?  Why not start your own business?

Sorry to be the one to tell you, no immigrant 'stole' your job.

I'm very concerned about the present and the future of the US.


 
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Re: US ELECTION #2
#59: November 13, 2016, 10:05:57 AM
El,

They are not going to get rid of the illegal immigrants.  They know we need them.
They do hard work, that pays low wages, that even our teenagers won't do.

Nah, they aren't going anywhere.   :)

There also will be no wall built.
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