[Christina13]

Thank you Den ,
I do see vicious cycling and confusion. Ow is an AD. She was having trouble in her marriage and always complaining to H.  She left and moved in with her parents. Then he did not long after. She filed for divorce. Then two months later he did. I feel like he's mimicking her. He never served papers. And lied about filing. He talked about all the money for his lawyer. But he doesn't have one.
I'm just scared of D. He is moving so fast and doesn't seem in control. So if I ask him anything he monsters as a way to stop me from talking to him.
Thank you again.

[gman242]

Den, i see a lot if what my W is going through in your reponses and it always seems like they are aptly timed.

I think OM is catching on to our friendship. Shes left from here angry after texting surreptitiously and it would seem OM checks up on her and watches the clock.

[denjef31]

GMan,

Oh that's a good thing!!! He should start spinning like hamster on a wheel with thoughts and jealousy. It's about to get interesting. You are about to be tested your strength and resolve in the near future and it's important for you to be still, and be quiet because you will not know what is going on but if he had caught on everything he is about to do will be for your benefit and his demise.

Now don't think this will happen overnight GMan, it will be a slow burn as I sense she will try to hold on to the ledge to keep from falling and restore order in her bubble. Wow this is a hard time but I know you can do!!!


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[denjef31]

Christina13,

He doesn't want a divorce if he did he knows what to do. He shutting up OW because she is pressuring him. He can't put his finger on why he is confused. He is not sure about anything right now. Nothing you can do right now but step aside and be the lighthouse. All of this is script. Bunch of monkey braiding mush that's all. Pray and pray some more for strength and courage to get thru this and for your husband to be delivered from this. It will get worse before it gets better but this is only for a season.


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[Velika]

Denjef, thank you again for all your posts. So illuminating and helpful to read.

I am in process of divorce with MLCer who has pregnant OW (not planned). He is 18 months since bomb drop. I have been very low contact with him since May.

Although he filed for divorce and is a lawyer, he has not turned in most of the required paperwork/disclosures. OW is due with a baby in two months and they still do not have a living arrangement. He has recently taken up an interest in hunting (totally out of character) and has now been purchasing guns.

I have been very worried since this latest developments and feel quite certain he has a mental illness possibly beyond serious depression/MLC. The last two times I saw him his mood appeared to range from stressed out to highly agitated.

I am wondering, when you were in the fog, was there any way anyone could have gotten through to you to convince you that you needed to see a doctor? I am not asking this for reconciliation purposes but out of concern for the safety of our young son.

Thank you! In advance.

Thank you!

[Absolutely Fabulous]

Thanks again Denjef.

New development: either he or the AD is reading my blog posts on a regular basis. The flag of where they are keeps popping up. My guess is it's her. I called him out on it a few months ago and it stopped.

The day after the kids flew to see him, the flag popped up again. Since his computer Internet is different than his cell service.... the girls told me he didn't have his laptop. He was with them the whole time. MD confirmed that he left his laptop at home when the flag turned up. OD only has a cell no laptop. Wonder what that's all about?

At any rate, he'll be back on Friday of next week. Wonder what kind of chaos and calamity he'll be bringing with him. It seems to follow him. The kids and I are tired of drama.

[Christina13]

Thank you again Denjef,
He's going longer spans of not coming around. It's hard to know how to act to him.
 Contact or no contact.
What is monkey braiding ? Sounds interesting !

[Thunder]

Christina,

It's kind of like you let your imagination start to take over and it goes in all kinds of crazy directions.
Gets you no where but sometimes we do it anyway.

Over analyzing.  Over thinking.

[denjef31]

Just as Thunder said. Hi Thunder👍😍

Christina13, believe you me I know how you are feeling and I understand the questions from everybody we just are looking for answers and reassurance but we are doing ourselves more harm than good. I say that cause it's true but I struggle with it too. I had to zip my lips last night to keep from asking burning questions and it ended up being a great evening for H and I.

If nothing else MLC will teach you how to have patience, and faith.


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[denjef31]

My3 Girls,

What you mean by flagging? Anyway if she is coming to your page checking to see what you are doing is another indication all is not well in her bubble. Happy and I love people don't go snooping, but people are jealous or in fear do. I know it's hard but you must accept she can and probably will do this because she feels threatened by you.

Unless she is threatening you I would just try to ignore it all. You can't let her think for a second anything she does bother you because if you do she will definitely ramp up her efforts to get under your skin.

I wouldn't mention it to H either, you really have to show them both they don't scare, or control you.when she doesn't get a rise out of you she will stop and she may try's different tactic.

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