[How long have you and your spouse been together/married]

How long have you and your spouse been together/married

5-10 years

8 (7.2%)

10-15 years

11 (9.9%)

15-20 years

35 (31.5%)

20-25 years

24 (21.6%)

25-30 years

19 (17.1%)

Over 30 years

14 (12.6%)

Total Members Voted: 111

[hopeandfaith]

I seem to be coming across ALOT of marriages that are hitting hard times around the 15 year mark.  I know we have patterns regarding age but I am wondering if there are any patterns concerning the age of the relationship?

[Ready2Transform]

We married ten years in, but BD was at 21 years total. To be honest though, I remember there being a shift around that 15 year mark. We made drastic life changes then, but in hindsight I see where that likely kept MLC at bay for awhile.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

36 years together, 34 married. When I met my wife she had just turned 16 and I had just turned 19. We raised two daughters and a granddaughter together. A lot of people saw us with our granddaughter and thought we were her parents. People still see me with my granddaughter and think that I'm her father.

[JoJoJo]

We were married 18 years when he said it.   But he claims he had felt a change around 8 or 9 years in. 

[Mitzpah]

26 years of marriage at BD, 31 of relationship - then 30 years at divorce and 35 of relationship.

He told me at BD that he had been unhappy for five years , then more... - it depended on the day; until he said that he had been forced to marry me

[nah]

We met one week after I graduated high school. He was 19.

Moved in together after the summer and married a year later.

I was 19, he was 21.

We started with nothing, slept on a mattress on the floor for the first 5 years.

We both worked our @sses off for years. Before kids, I worked two full time jobs at once. 

He left 4 months before our 27th anniversary. He said I was lucky to enjoy a life of living off of the fruits of his labor.

Yep. I was using him for his money the whole time. 

[Thunder]

I hit married 20/25 years but realized after it said married/together.  That would be over 30 years. 

[Thunder]

Sorry, tried to change it but it wouldn't let me.  So there should be 2 for over 30.   

[Reallytrying]

We were married 15 years when BD occurred. Had been together 22.

[sada]

It's so interesting that you noticed that HaF.  My bomb drop was at 18 yrs but previous to that I had noticed that many couples that we knew were splitting up around the 15-16 year mark.  My h & I even discussed it.  I knew nothing about mlc at that time but I did notice the surge in divorces & separations.