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« Reply #30 on: February 03, 2017, 04:21:36 AM »
Me - 56
xW - 49
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #31 on: February 03, 2017, 04:32:18 AM »
I agree UM -l love those bouncy faces.. ;D ;D

See?? you let go a little and there is some movement..proceed with caution.
It is understandable she got herself into something then did not know how to get out of it.
« Last Edit: February 03, 2017, 05:07:15 AM by in it »
There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #32 on: February 13, 2017, 01:23:10 PM »
Hey Krathos,

My w has been "back" since just before xmas. Very sudden as well. Just wanted to see how its going...
Me - 49
MLC W - 49
Together 19 yrs
Married 15 yrs
S 13
S 11
S 9
BD June 1 2016
Home Dec 23 2016
Recommitted to our M Sept 2017
3 years since BD, reconciled and going strong

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #33 on: February 13, 2017, 04:49:04 PM »
K,

I didn't realize your wife was back.  I must have missed that post!!  I am so excited for you, but as we all say, please proceed with caution.  Don't take things too quickly.
I know it is so exciting and it is something we are all hoping for, but you don't want to scare her back into a corner. 

Hope to hear from you...

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #34 on: February 13, 2017, 07:14:37 PM »
Hope all is going well krathos
Update us when you can.
There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #35 on: February 13, 2017, 07:40:28 PM »
Storm, Never, in it...

Things are going really well, we talk all the time now, D is talking to her a lot more and they are starting to reconnect. D seems to be contacting W a lot more, I don't ask but W tells me when they talk, I stay out of it now, just let things flow naturally.

Wife admitted that she had lost herself and made a big mistake, she is having a hard time forgiving herself for what she did. Told me she wanted me back for months and didn't know how to get rid of OM, he just wouldn't leave. Told me she was always in contact with me to see if I was still interested, if I had moved on, if I would take her back.
I must admit though with the meds she is on she is completely different, more like the woman I met and fell in love with all those years ago..I forgot what that person was like, forgot that person even existed. I guess I have OM to thank for that as he talked her into going to the doctor about meds for her anxiety and depression. I doubt he thought it would turn out the way it did.

We are buidling a new relationship, I for the most part follow her lead, I don't pressure her at all, she still isn't interested in coming home but that's fine, I kinda like it the way things are for now. It's nice to hear I Love You from her again, I really missed that, kinda strange that those 3 little words coming from her makes me feel so good.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #36 on: February 14, 2017, 01:22:37 AM »
<----- Admits to being jealous......

Slow and steady wins the race..... I am really happy for you both. You are doing the right things, allowing her to lead the way and not pressuring her at all....

VERY well done.....

UM
Me - 56
xW - 49
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #37 on: February 14, 2017, 02:16:12 AM »
Thank you Ursa, I hate coming on here and saying how good it is going with my W when so many are still battling it out, hoping that their W/H's come out of the fog and come back to them. That's why I haven't been posting, not really sure what to say.
I admit that it still isn't easy because part of me is still waiting for her slip back into the fog but I don't let it show and I appreciate every second that her and I have together, every conversation we have together where I now know that she isn't hiding it from OM. I do hope everyone find their way back together.
I want to thank you and everyone else on this site, you helped keep me sane In an insane time....REALLY. The advise and guidance on here really do work, in my case anyways.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #38 on: February 14, 2017, 02:20:33 AM »
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE continue to post...

Good news is always a welcome respite from the daily grind of the LBS... It shows those in the trenches that there can, in fact, be a light at the end of the tunnel that is NOT yet another oncoming train....

UM
Me - 56
xW - 49
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.

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Re: so this is now my life...vol.2
« Reply #39 on: February 14, 2017, 03:47:08 AM »
I agree with UM.
There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.

 

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