[truth_seeker]

Oh my how I love this!  Bad girl that I am.

OK I have hot one just happened last night.  H texts D18 a really mean spirited text which we're assuming was supposed to be sent to me discussing D and it goes something like this:

H: I don't know what's up with D, she's not responding to me, doesn't call me or tell me what's up with her.  I asked her to let me know her plans and she's not responded yet.  If she continues to treat me this way I'm going to have to come down really hard on her. 
D responds back to H: Um, ok? Not sure what that's all about since I just got out of sports practice.  LOL 

H didn't reply back.  But sent me a long crazy text then proceeded to send another with was even crazier.  I'll spare you the long text.  Trust me when I say it was NUTZ! BTW I was attending my S sports game.

[truth_seeker]

This lack of using our names or wife/husband must be depersonalization for them, don't you think?

My H stopped using my nickname and began using the more formal version of my name when and if he decides to call me by name.  Which is not that many times. Mostly refers to me as the third person. 

[BonBon]

Ok, so is it winding up that female MLCers use names and terms of endearment and male MLCers don't?
Hmmm.

I'll have to contemplate that while I'm digging a ditch by the tennis court.  Hahahaha!

TS,
I'm sure it was fun to hear an MLCer ream out your daughter for not answering/responding...because we all know MLCers are so great at doing what they're supposed to do, right?  OY!

[trusting]

Ok, so is it winding up that female MLCers use names and terms of endearment and male MLCers don't?
Hmmm.

That was my conclusion, too.

Enjoy digging those ditches!

[LettingGo]

My clinging boomerang husband started out with NO name at all, then calling me by my name... then after my initial 180, tried out "baby" and "my love" through texting only... NOW, he's back to "honey" which I said felt normal, but that I would prefer he use my name... more like a lover... that confused him, but he's trying hard not to call me honey and asked if "baby" was ok.... I told him I like "baby". So now I get a lot of "honey... I mean LG".

For the record, I LIKE honey.... it's what I've always been... HOWEVER, he's been having a ROMANCE with someone else for a year so I need him to see me DIFFERENTLY than how we used to be.

[Faith]

Shortly after BD, one of the reasons my H gave for why he was divorcing me was that I never brought a cake to his workplace.   

This also occured during one of his many rants about all my faults:

H:  "you never even planned any events at (his workplace)"

Me:  "what are you talking about?  What kind of events?"

H:  "If you supported me, you would have planned some special events"

Me:  "You've never once mentioned wanting to have an "event" or wishing I would plan one?  How can you be mad at me for refusing to do something you never asked me to do?  This is the first I've ever heard of it."

H:  "You should have thought of it on your own"

To this day I still don't know what the heck he was talking about, but I guess it's divorce-worthy!!   

[initforever]

My H told me that God preformed the first divorce when He kicked the devil out of heaven!!!

I couldn't help but to kindly inform him THEY WERE NEVER MARRIED!!!!

[forthetrees]

okay- as a fellow bad back person the ditch story is priceless!!!!

here´s mine:
one of the reasons H said he was leaving was b/c I refused to lower the sales price of the house. I said that I did not recall a conversation in which he asked that I do so. His response was that there was no conversation b/c he knew I would be against it. He informed me more than five years after the fact. How can he hold me accountable for not doing what he wanted when he did not say what he wanted?! Is that not the crux of the matter for most of us?

Then there´s the: I want to spend more time with my mother. My response, I´m okay with that. H´s response, no, I want to live with her. Good grief. I consider standing because?

[Rebel Yell]

So, another piece of the puzzle maybe? MLCers never were clear in the things they wanted or needed?
They assume and mind read?
Feedback?

[covenantkeeper]

LOL! initforever.  That is priceless! Isn't it amazing how they turn scriptures around to suit them?

They apparently don't even listen to themselves while they're talking! If they did, they would realize how stupid they sound!! 

faith,
Your h sounds a little like mine and this story reminded me of something stupid h said to me. Last year right after he abandoned me, he said one of the reasons he left me was because I refused to go fishing with him.

Me: I never knew you wanted to go fishing.
Him: I love to fish!
Me: Then why am I just now finding out that you love to fish?
Him: Well, you must not have been paying attention.....because I want to fish all the time!
Me: Hmmmm. How would you do this when you don't even have a fishing pole?
Him: I do, too. It's in the garage.
Me: Since when?
Him: Since we got married.
Me: So, let's see if I've got this straight. You own a fishing pole that in the 33 yrs. we've been married I have never seen or heard you talk about?
Him: Yes.
Me: And you love to fish so much that in these 33 yrs. I have yet to see you go anywhere with this supposed fishing pole?
Him: Yes.
Me: So, your complaint is that I kept you from doing something you have always wanted to do that you never mentioned to me with equipment that you have that I've never laid eyes on?
Him: Yes.

And he said it all with a straight face!!