[Bewildered]

I think this may be my favorite  thread ..need to be able to laugh some more ...........from my MLCer

H: I cant live in this house any more as I have cycled all the lanes (he was manic about cycling) around it and need to find new lanes, streets etc
Me: 

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H: speaking to me on the phone, always has a get out line for the start this one was ..
Hi I have just been for a run so am cooling down now so called .... but will have to go soon and get a shower
Me: fine we chat on and I cant get him to stop and need to to as only so much idle chit chat is possible so I say you must need your shower now I guess so I'll let you go .. he says
H: No I'm fine have all night to chat
Me; Panic I am out of steam and then D comes in and I say Hi to her he says
H: who are you speaking too? slightly angry,
Me; Daughter - hey D do you want to talk to Dad? and pass phone over saying Lovely to chat take care bye
D: on phone for 30 seconds hangs up
Me: why that was quick ??
D: Dad says he needs a shower??

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H asks D to help him with a work project - a cultural ecological event, for his company re her doing the promotions and communications stuff
D: Dad how do you want me to tie in this event  with your business and promote the company
H: 'Its not about the business I just want  to save the world'
D: 
H: twits about how he is doing this event and blogs about him doing this event ??
Guess his fellow directors thought spending their money to help him ave the world
event - success rate out of 10 a 3!
and pays D for doing nothing but 10 minutes on writing his tweets about himself?? she was 

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D: staying at her Dads 9 months ago (his apartment being decorated so at a rented one)
Hey D should I get some food for tonight? what do you want ?
H: yes please  Pizza with pineapple (hated this before)
D buys and gets to the rented apartment and finds out he has only a microwave?
he cooks it in the microwave result
floppy soggy yuk pizza - he eats is D goes out for hamburger!!! tells her its good!!!!!
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Things he did and some he still does

Did
shout at us for walking on the wooden floors - noise below then buys a static cycling machine which sounds like a tornado .. neighbours complain to him about the noise?

we said the shower was broken in the apartment he told us we were spoilt 18 months later - new shower, says to S - the other one was useless

Does still ...

washes his clothes irons them folds them back into his suitcase? doesn't hang up his clothes
eats the same foods when home -
goes out every night to any thing going
says he doesn't watch TV and so wont have a TV set event when D asks for one but he has sattil/cable on his laptop which he watches


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going to work now more another time

B xxxxxxx

[Musica]

Yep ... my favourite thread too ... you have to laugh!!

[Believer]

Throughout this rollercoaster ride  H has said he has to be alone. He thinks he'll be happier off alone- perhaps he's meant to be alone 

He shares with me though that one of his biggest fears with ending the marriage ( which yes has been rewritten to make me sound like a horrible ogre & I am to blame)..... you guessed it ..being alone!!

Guess that's why OW is there by his side!

[Believer]

Here are another couple of H's comments that made me go   

I once asked him what he wanted in a marriage ... his response "exactly what I have with you" 
or
when he said "I'm a great wife he knows any man would kill to have me as their wife "


What can I do but go            with all my firends here!!
Believer

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

He shares with me though that one of his biggest fears with ending the marriage ( which yes has been rewritten to make me sound like a horrible ogre & I am to blame)..... you guessed it ..being alone!!

I once asked him what he wanted in a marriage ... his response "exactly what I have with you" 
or
when he said "I'm a great wife he knows any man would kill to have me as their wife "

Believer, are we married to the same crazy man?  LOL.  Only difference w/ my H was he doesn't say fear of being alone he says fear of the unknown.    Ya gotta love it.

[Anj]

Great thread!
Mine said "I just don't understand how everyone else thinks what I am doing is so wrong when it feels so right" - talking about OW.
BECAUSE IT IS WRONG!!!

Also "I just feel so bad for OW kids, that is why I am spending so much time with them and doing so much stuff for them.  Their Dad just isn't around and doesn't act like he gives a &*#@."
... Oh you mean exactly how you are treating your own kids!?

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

Text from H during a 10-day trip I'd taken to get away from H in Monster to me for months

"Let's have kids..." 

YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS STUFF UP, PEOPLE.

[Mamma Bear]

 Mine is in my driveway fixing my tailgate hydraulic door opener on the minivan. I start to fry up some onions bc he is going to help the kids with HW and I wanted to give him a head start with the perogies(I took them out of the freezer his Mom made them special)  I was coming back to work. He comes running into the kitchen carrying a desk he found at a yard sale and he's moving everything around 
   Out of breath at one point he says "Oh what are you doing? Cooking. If I'd known you would do that I would've fixed an amp or something at the other place"   
   I put the spatula down took my soda and keys and flew away........ Sat in driveway for a couple of seconds and D11 said "He looks confused with a capital C"  He comes out "oh where'd she go?"
    I said "I was trying to give you space and not fry onions while you carry a desk."
    He says "Oh no it's OK I am sorry. I didn't mean to chase you off."      He looks pale and pastey and confused.  Really nice though. Stuck his arms and head almost IN my van saying "Good Bye"
      I can not believe how lost they actually are. OWs MUST see this. It's all so surreal.    

[Musica]

This was a txt I got from H in August ..." Hello. Forgot to say I had an alcohol free day yesterday, first time since my colonoscopy. I am going to try and do it more often. Bye. x"   Don't know why but this made me laugh out loud!!

Another txt  .." Grass looks nice. House looks nice too. What a lovely place to live. Are you having a lovely meal in the restaurant. I'm in the bar, the beer is nice and the crisps are gorgeous. I will be gone in a few minutes. Night"  My daughter went through to say hello (and pinch a gorgeous crisp!) but he had gone already!!

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

H posts to FB how this is him and he isn't going to change no matter what blah blah blah.

That's great, too bad you didn't say you won't change before you COMPLETELY CHANGED.