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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Getting Help for the Depressed MLCer
#50: February 13, 2017, 03:04:17 PM
My H calls MLC his 'Depression' yet has no problem saying he's having a MLC, actually he is the one that told me.
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Re: Getting Help for the Depressed MLCer
#51: February 13, 2017, 03:31:14 PM
XYZ,

I guess that was what I was trying to say.  When I joined this site, I had a hard time believing my H was truly in a crisis.  Our situation was so very different from what I was reading story after story.

Yes, he wanted a D but he was considerate of my feelings. willing to be patient to get his single life going.  No pressure, No Monster, No ow, No spending money, No I don't love you, No I hate you, No name calling.  I thought he just really fell out of love with me.

UNTIL the day I found an article on Low Energy Wallowers.  It all fell in place.

He was in crisis but he was not the "norm".  Most MLCer's are high energy and they are easy to spot.
Wallower's are very confusing.  They seem so much milder but underneath their not.  So you're left more confused.

Sorry I have no idea what got me on this tangent.   :)

I guess I just don't believe there is a huge difference.  Their crisis may seem different, but it really isn't.
The anger is just harder to see.  But the depression is there.
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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