To my Trump-supporting friends, we are scared of you
Commentary Nov 10
Written by Jason Darr, Contributor
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To my friends on the Right:
We're terrified of you.
This isn't a matter of disliking policy or disagreeing on what direction the country should go in. This is a real terror concerning you, what you believe, and who you have elected.
As a white guy, (and I know how much you hate hearing about that distinction) I have the least to be afraid of. I'm in a reviled religious minority, but I can hide in plain sight. I've had to lie about my beliefs before and it feels horrible, but I'm afforded that privilege in order to avoid your judgement. So many other groups can't. They're scared. And I'm scared for them.
I'm scared for my gay friends and family. The Right has judged them for decades now, ranging from far-away scorn to physical violence and murder. After lifelong battles, too late for so many, they won the right to marry -- a right you've always had. Now that right will be questioned and possibly taken away. The Right kept fighting the right to adopt even after Obergefell. They're still fighting treating gay marriages the same as straight ones, in my very own state. We are scared about these rights being rolled back. We are scared that you have elected a vice president who supports sending gay people into therapy so that they can be "fixed" and made straight, like him. We are scared that the attacks will increase again.
Perhaps you don't support these things. But you have voted for people that do.
I'm scared for my transgender friends. They were already in mortal fear that someone from the Right would catch them using the "wrong" bathroom. Not a fear of the law, but a fear of being attacked. Last night a Republican who said he would PERSONALLY be the one instigating such attacks became sheriff in my county.
Perhaps you don't support that. But you have voted for people that do.
I'm scared for my Muslim friends. I have now seen two separate accounts of Muslim friends of friends being physically attacked last night and told to go back to their own country. Both were born in the U.S.
Perhaps you don't support that. But you have voted for people that do.
I'm scared for my Hispanic friends. So many will now face having their families broken up, not to mention the discrimination from an overt racist. A man who thinks Hispanic people can't preside over his cases will now be in charge of filling vacancies on the judiciary.
Perhaps you don't support that. But you have voted for people that do.
And most importantly I'm scared for my female friends. I am TERRIFIED for my female friends. I'm scared for my friends that recounted the times they were groped exactly in the manner Trump described himself doing on his despicable tape. I'm scared for the ones who have had panic attacks after reading about the time he raped his wife.
I'm scared that after all the progress we seemed to have made in that area, the president will be someone who said women being in the workplace is a problem. A president who said that if he got home and dinner wasn't ready that he would go through the roof. A president who talks on camera about young girls and how he'll be dating them in a few years. A president who sexualizes his own daughters. A president who attacks his female opponents by saying: "Just look at her face." A president who wakes up in the middle of the night to attack a woman who says he acted inappropriately towards her. A president who says only women with large breasts can be attractive. That's without even touching all of the policies that will put women's rights and lives at risk here soon.
Perhaps you don't support that. But you have voted for people that do.
I don't know how this country is going to move forward, but this is not a normal "our side lost." This isn't sour grapes. We're scared of you. We don't understand you. And we are, quite frankly, right now terrified of what you've done to the government. (Please don't draw any comparisons to the economics of Barack Obama. NOTHING there approaches the physical danger people are afraid of right now.)
I hope there's a way past this, but we can't understand how you can look past all of the hatred, bigotry, and judgement and say, "Well those things are bad, but I'm ok with electing people like that."
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Thundarr, your "vile" comments frighten us. Your "twisted" patriotism, horrifies us. Your "bigoted" conclusions, disgust us. Your "dogmatic" religious beliefs, cause us to doubt your devotion. Your "devotion" to a man who gropes women and raped his wife, grades women's appearance, sexualizes women, stereotypes women, shows us your TRUE thoughts about women and their place in your society. Warns us to be very, very afraid. BUT not of Muslim Terrorist, but of scared white boys like you!
We are afraid of you Thundarr, we should be!
Regarding an Islamic baker, preparing a wedding cake for a "gay marriage": YES, that baker should have to make such a cake because in a free and democratic country like America, gay marriages are now recognized and LEGAL. Make the cake, congratulate the happy couple, wish them a happy life and be proud of contributing to their SPECIAL DAY.
We are afraid of you and people like you. Your type walk amongst us, undetectable. We are afraid. Very afraid. We all should be.
hugs Stayed