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« Reply #30 on: September 26, 2018, 12:13:20 PM »
Hello Everyone

  While reading other threads I've seen people recommend reading Denjef's thread. I am interested in reading this. How can I find it if it still exists? Also, I'm interested in other MLCer's stories after they have come threw to the end,

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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #32 on: September 27, 2018, 02:50:21 PM »
Thank you xyzcf
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #33 on: October 15, 2018, 12:31:33 PM »
I am looking for a mentor.

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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #34 on: November 27, 2018, 06:04:38 AM »
When exactly is limbo ? After an awAkening? During replay?

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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #35 on: November 27, 2018, 06:26:58 AM »
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #36 on: November 27, 2018, 08:43:03 AM »
I have read that . It doesn't seem to answer my question . Can anyone further explain? This to me sounds like my h in the beginning . Everyone said he was in limbo until we d . But he is still with ow and partying . Replay .  The explanation sounds like it should be after replay . Is it ?    Maybe after an awakening during liminality when making decision to maybe go back home ?    Confused

Will answer on your thread.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #37 on: November 27, 2018, 08:56:03 AM »
I think limbo is hard to actually see.  To me, it's like somewhere stuck in the end of replay, where they have realized that the OW is not their "soulmate," their new life didn't fix them, they've stopped running from thing to thing, spending wildly and all that, but they're still not ready to look deep within or take the next steps so they're just kind of stuck living the life they currently have because they don't have the motivation to make any new changes. 

It's not like deep replay, where they are like wild manic aliens, high on the euphoria of "freedom," spending tons of money, jumping from new thing to new thing.  They haven't reached the real depression stage, because that brings on real deep dark depression.  They may have settled on a new job, live with the OW, and by all appearances are living a "normal" day to day existence, but it's just because that's where they landed after the manic craziness of replay wound down and now they don't have the energy to move forward any further. 

I don't know if that makes sense, but that's kind of my take on it. 
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
« Reply #38 on: November 28, 2018, 02:55:54 AM »
ok  yes . i believe then thats my h. just the same old routine as he knows it now.   do you think there is an awakening or not yet?


 

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