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#80: June 27, 2017, 08:38:59 AM
Quote from: UrsaMajor on June 27, 2017, 06:56:02 AM

Oh SB. I am appalled! That is not just "a chick with boxing gloves." That is Buffy, the Vampire Slayer! In full battle mode!  ;D

Oops!  You can tell I've never seen Buffy before!!   :)   Now that I know who she is, I like it even more!! 
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#81: June 27, 2017, 08:51:58 AM
Love Buffy...

Has anybody ever tried throwing traditional MLCers quotes right back at them??

The Leaver once was complaining that I was spending all of "his" money on vacations with my boyfriends.

I replied, "I guess that's why all this happened, I finally get to do things that I always wanted to do but couldn't bc you didn't want to." 

His expression was priceless... he just stared at me with his mouth open.

I have often wondered why he was the one to run. He had all the freedom in the world, much much more freedom than he has now. I was the one who was always stuck home, watching the kids and waiting for him.  Now I'm the one who has all this new found freedom.

Funny how that works.

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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#82: June 27, 2017, 09:20:06 AM
Quote from: nah on June 27, 2017, 08:51:58 AM


I have often wondered why he was the one to run. He had all the freedom in the world, much much more freedom than he has now. I was the one who was always stuck home, watching the kids and waiting for him.  Now I'm the one who has all this new found freedom.

Funny how that works.

So true for me as well.  I was/am tied to a job and he was self-employed.  Of course I made lots more money than he did, which allowed us to travel, have fun toys, and basically let him him spend his money on hunting/fishing trips/hobby farming. 

Now he's totally supporting the OW who has very little earning power. 

Indeed, too funny how that works.   ;)
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#83: June 27, 2017, 08:25:48 PM
When mine was monstering at me.. a few years ago.

He told he I was retarded... Yes, he said that to me totally serious...
So I turned around to him as calm as possible and said,  "Why Yes I am retarded" I shut his truck door so he could drive away and walked into the house and closed the garage..

His face was priceless.   He never said that again.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#84: June 27, 2017, 08:56:32 PM
 



So did mine Nah, he had all the freedom in the world I never complained about him going out with his friends etc I completely trusted him, while I was stuck in the home taking care of 'business' he hardly gave me any money for groceries etc, and he did make good money, since he ran off I got myself a job and I'm making the exact same money he is!!! LOL!

He's a vanisher so I'm grateful I have nothing to do with him.

I have often wondered why he was the one to run. He had all the freedom in the world, much much more freedom than he has now. I was the one who was always stuck home, watching the kids and waiting for him.  Now I'm the one who has all this new found freedom.

Funny how that works.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#85: July 01, 2017, 02:15:12 PM
Quote from: Shelly7435 on June 27, 2017, 08:25:48 PM
When mine was monstering at me.. a few years ago.

He told he I was retarded... Yes, he said that to me totally serious...
So I turned around to him as calm as possible and said,  "Why Yes I am retarded" I shut his truck door so he could drive away and walked into the house and closed the garage..

His face was priceless.   He never said that again.

Mine told me that HE was retarded!
and he also told me (amongst many other things) that he did the things he did because he felt sorry for OW. 
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#86: July 01, 2017, 09:41:05 PM
Mine IS retarded, he wants to marry the spinster ow and give her a child, because he feels 'sorry' for her, then he tells his brother she's gone through menopause, firetruckin idiot.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#87: July 13, 2017, 02:28:12 AM
Mine said he felt sorry for me and that's why he was with me ......The question is what was there to  feel sorry for I had my own business which was doing well , my own car , etc etc while he had nothing not even a job and was even on trail at court !!

He did say he felt sorry for ow because she said that she  had found out (which is not true cause she always knew) that her father was cheating on her mum and was taking money to support his other family ! She said her father was a bad man ermmm sorry but she's with a man who was doing the same thing as her father ,no wonder exh is now best buddies with ow's father  !!!!!!!

With me exh was relaxed now he's got support ow and their daughter and to him I say welcome to the adult world pity you're not supporting our kids too!!!!
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#88: July 13, 2017, 02:38:05 AM
Maomina, mine felt sorry for OW too. She said her H was abusing her. Mutual friends of OW and her (now) ex H think these were false accusations, she apparently cheated on her H frequently and ended up cheating on my H. Karma, lol!

My ex said that OW was the only person he felt calm around and maybe he had to leave me to be well. Yes, I am evil  ::)
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#89: July 13, 2017, 03:12:57 AM
Blondie apparently I'm evil too since i made him take drugs now he says he's finally clean has even stopped smoking and became a vegetarian  ......he was sooooooo unhappy with me poor poor exh !!

Ow had a bar and she even came up with the sob story that one of her partners (in the bar) tried to abuse her ,she nearly ruined another marriage with her lies . I spoke to the partner and he said she's been doing these things for a while now and was apparently even attempting to get in an r with a 55 yr old before she met my ex !!!! (by the way she was 19 back then)
 
These ow are so conniving I really don't know how our ex's don't see right through them !!!!
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