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#70: June 27, 2017, 05:44:45 AM
Quote from: Tyks on June 27, 2017, 04:01:09 AM
"Everything happens for a reason" ... h said this a few times. "Let things happen naturally"... that one was his favourite. Things cant happen naturally when you have been with someone for 22 years and then you vanish  ::)

Ooooooohhhhh My!  Where MY mind when there...

H: "Let things happen naturally"

Tyks: "OK, I naturally want to punch you in the face!" "How's that 'naturally happening thing' working for you now?"

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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#71: June 27, 2017, 05:51:43 AM
Arghhh what even is that line 'you deserve to be with someone that can love you like you deserve to be loved' it enrages me.

I think I have hit anger mode again... joy...
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#72: June 27, 2017, 05:57:10 AM
Quote from: sparklestar on June 27, 2017, 05:51:43 AM
Arghhh what even is that line 'you deserve to be with someone that can love you like you deserve to be loved' it enrages me.


Doesn't it just make you wanna
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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#73: June 27, 2017, 06:00:19 AM
Well sparkle if this is their idea of love? We all deserve better.. :)

Ursa these emoticons are hysterical... ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#74: June 27, 2017, 06:06:12 AM
Quote from: in it on June 27, 2017, 06:00:19 AM
Ursa these emoticons are hysterical... ;D ;D ;D ;D

A picture IS worth 1000 words sometimes...
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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#75: June 27, 2017, 06:08:59 AM
Well weirdly in the last 'big' interaction with my H when he was getting his stuff and was wittering the repetitive 'I didn't expect to fall out of love' while carrying his stuff out I said in a throw away comment 'oh please, you don't know even how to love' and he stopped in his tracks looked horrified and said 'what so you mean' I was totally caught of guard as I was surprised that of all the things I said that was the thing that got to him I replied 'you don't, you haven't got a clue how to love' and I swear it looked like I had driven a knife through his heart. WHY did that bother him so much?

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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#76: June 27, 2017, 06:24:23 AM
I have no idea what or why anything we say would effect them.

IMHO you were probably telling the truth. And you wanted to stop him from running his mouth.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#77: June 27, 2017, 06:31:10 AM
UM - love the chick with the boxing gloves! 

I agree - the MLCer has absolutely NO idea about how to love or even what love is.  Too bad they can't figure that out. 
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#78: June 27, 2017, 06:56:02 AM
Quote from: stillbaffled on June 27, 2017, 06:31:10 AM
UM - love the chick with the boxing gloves! 

Oh SB. I am appalled! That is not just "a chick with boxing gloves." That is Buffy, the Vampire Slayer! In full battle mode!  ;D
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A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.
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Re: Reasons for leaving and justifications for behavior many MLCers give #2
#79: June 27, 2017, 07:34:17 AM
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