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Discussion Want a Mentor
« on: April 04, 2017, 06:27:26 PM »
Newbies if you want a mentor

please make a post here.

1) The requirements for having a mentor is to have your own thread on the Heros Spouse website

and

2) request a  mentor.

We can not assign a mentor without knowing about your story.
Please keep posting on your thread.

The Mentor Program


Also read this thread
Survival Instructions for Newbies


Previous thread
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=7837.0

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2017, 09:07:44 PM »
I would like a mentor
In high tide or low tide I will be standing by your side!!
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2017, 05:51:01 AM »
I would like a mentor
You are added to the list, please keep posting so we can make a good assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #3 on: May 01, 2017, 01:45:00 AM »
I know I've been posting a while but would appreciate a mentor

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #4 on: May 01, 2017, 05:29:45 AM »
I know I've been posting a while but would appreciate a mentor
OK you are added to the list


Edit - You were sent a personal message twice by me and have not yet responded,
please respond.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #5 on: May 05, 2017, 08:30:08 AM »
I would like a mentor


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #7 on: May 15, 2017, 01:55:36 PM »
I would like a mentor please.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #8 on: May 15, 2017, 01:57:34 PM »
I would like a mentor please.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #9 on: May 17, 2017, 06:50:48 AM »
Could I get a mentor?!?!?!?   
Together for 23 years, Married for almost 14 years.
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Never blessed with human children but we have 3 rescued dogs who are like family.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #10 on: May 17, 2017, 07:14:42 AM »
Could I get a mentor?!?!?!?
You are added to the list, please keep posting so we can make a good assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #11 on: May 17, 2017, 09:18:38 AM »
Could I get a mentor?!?!?!?
You are added to the list, please keep posting so we can make a good assignment
Will do!  :)
Together for 23 years, Married for almost 14 years.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #12 on: May 26, 2017, 06:04:26 AM »
I think a mentor would be great for me right now...so many questions
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #13 on: May 26, 2017, 06:19:46 AM »
I think a mentor would be great for me right now...so many questions

You are added to the list, please keep posting so we can make a good assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #14 on: May 29, 2017, 01:11:37 AM »
Is it too late to get a mentor though I've been posting some time already?
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #15 on: May 29, 2017, 02:42:42 AM »
Is it too late to get a mentor though I've been posting some time already?
You are added to the list just keep posting on your thread until we make an assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #16 on: June 01, 2017, 12:01:33 PM »
I would like a mentor.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #17 on: June 01, 2017, 12:55:00 PM »
I would like a mentor.
You are added to the list  just keep posting on your thread until we make an assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #18 on: June 07, 2017, 04:08:24 PM »
Hi, have just started my story this evening - please could I have a mentor, thank you x

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #19 on: June 07, 2017, 04:38:25 PM »
Hi, have just started my story this evening - please could I have a mentor, thank you x
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #20 on: June 15, 2017, 06:14:10 AM »
I would like a mentor.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #21 on: June 15, 2017, 07:18:24 AM »
I would like a mentor.
You are added to the list - keep posting on your thread.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #22 on: June 25, 2017, 02:31:30 PM »
Hi OldPilot,

If possible i would like a mentor assigned.

Thanks Clara 12
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #23 on: June 25, 2017, 04:57:59 PM »
Hi OldPilot,

If possible i would like a mentor assigned.

Thanks Clara 12
Keep posting on your thread and I have added you to the list.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #24 on: June 28, 2017, 11:24:52 PM »
Hi OP.
I have been putting it off but I would like a Mentor. Male if possible.
I need some support for the next few months because they could be critical (see the last to pages of my Thread)

Thank you
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #25 on: July 06, 2017, 08:50:31 AM »
I'm not new but feel as though I have am just as lost as I was then. Can I still get a mentor?
M 40
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Ow 41( his 1st cousin) moved in May 23, 2017, she went back to her husband Oct 2017
Ow moved back with her 2 kids Jan 1 2018 even with courts cutting his visitation with his kids because of it
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #26 on: July 06, 2017, 09:44:24 AM »
I'm not new but feel as though I have am just as lost as I was then. Can I still get a mentor?
I will put you on the list

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #27 on: July 25, 2017, 01:06:08 PM »
I would love a mentor please!

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #28 on: July 25, 2017, 01:59:52 PM »
I would love a mentor please!
You are added to the list - please keep posting on your thread

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #29 on: July 26, 2017, 03:49:14 PM »
HI, I would like a mentor.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #30 on: July 26, 2017, 04:17:27 PM »
HI, I would like a mentor.
You need to start your own thread and post your story, then I will add you to the list

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #31 on: July 30, 2017, 06:47:28 AM »
Hi, I would like a mentor please

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #32 on: July 30, 2017, 06:20:05 PM »
Hi, I would like a mentor please
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #33 on: August 07, 2017, 09:57:55 AM »
I'd like a mentor too, please!

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #34 on: August 07, 2017, 10:21:11 AM »
I'd like a mentor too, please!
You are added to the list please keep posting

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #35 on: August 09, 2017, 03:30:11 PM »
Requesting a Mentor


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #37 on: August 22, 2017, 05:33:28 PM »
Thank you Old Pilot

You have responded to my post.

I would be so grateful to have a mentor

Thank you
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #38 on: August 22, 2017, 05:48:45 PM »
Thank you Old Pilot

You have responded to my post.

I would be so grateful to have a mentor

Thank you
You are added to the list.
Please keep posting on your thread.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #39 on: August 24, 2017, 12:15:16 PM »
Needing a mentor

Offline OldPilotTopic starter

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #40 on: August 24, 2017, 01:35:49 PM »
Needing a mentor
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #41 on: August 27, 2017, 06:56:15 AM »
I would like to have a mentor for guidance through this journey.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #42 on: August 27, 2017, 08:27:20 AM »
I would like to have a mentor for guidance through this journey.
You are added to the list, please keep posting on your thread.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #43 on: August 27, 2017, 12:57:17 PM »
I need a mentor please asap

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #44 on: August 31, 2017, 02:48:57 PM »
I would love a mentor...
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H- moved out of our home in  2015 & moved in with OW
H- says doesnt want divorce, wants long term separation. doesnt know what the future holds.
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 Entering 2018. H has not filed for divorce.
He is still living with OW
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #45 on: September 01, 2017, 11:16:26 AM »
I would love a mentor...
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #46 on: September 05, 2017, 12:27:09 PM »
I would like a mentor please. Many thanks xx
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #47 on: September 06, 2017, 07:04:25 AM »
I would like a mentor please. Many thanks xx
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #48 on: September 06, 2017, 10:03:32 AM »
Could I have a mentor please.  Many thanks
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #49 on: September 06, 2017, 10:52:16 AM »
Could I have a mentor please.  Many thanks
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #50 on: September 06, 2017, 10:52:59 AM »
I would like a mentor. I thought I could navigate this on my own, but am struggling. Thank you.
Me: 33
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S17; D10; D7; D3
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BD: 4/25/2017 (EA, FA)
BD: 4/10/2018 (EA same OW)
Not sure what is going on between H and I.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #51 on: September 06, 2017, 01:45:48 PM »
I would like a mentor. I thought I could navigate this on my own, but am struggling. Thank you.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #52 on: September 11, 2017, 07:26:02 AM »
I would like a mentor to help me get past the divorce and post-divorce stage if possible
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD)
No kids.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #53 on: September 11, 2017, 07:43:27 AM »
I would like a mentor to help me get past the divorce and post-divorce stage if possible
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #54 on: September 20, 2017, 01:24:27 PM »
Would like a mentor.

Thank you!
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #55 on: September 20, 2017, 02:47:39 PM »
Would like a mentor.

Thank you!
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #56 on: September 24, 2017, 09:07:54 AM »
Hi there Old Pilot, Thank you and I would very much appreciate a mentor

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #57 on: September 24, 2017, 09:38:05 AM »
Hi there Old Pilot, Thank you and I would very much appreciate a mentor
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #58 on: October 03, 2017, 03:44:42 PM »
Mentor please


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #60 on: October 04, 2017, 06:50:51 AM »
I would LOVE a mentor.  Not sure how to post my story though?  I'm totally new- this is my first time on the forum.  New to the forum, new to this whole MLC "game"...
M: 42
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D: 17 S: 16 - both ours
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DB #1: 08.18.17-EA (ended)
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #61 on: October 04, 2017, 07:14:01 AM »
I would LOVE a mentor.  Not sure how to post my story though?  I'm totally new- this is my first time on the forum.  New to the forum, new to this whole MLC "game"...

Here is how to start a thread
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=1288.0

you will then be added to the list and you need to keep posting on your thread for us to make an assignment

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #62 on: October 04, 2017, 08:25:32 AM »
Hi, I would really love a mentor please. I have a thread going, 'D I make contact' .
Thank you.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #63 on: October 04, 2017, 09:04:21 AM »
Hi, I would really love a mentor please. I have a thread going, 'D I make contact' .
Thank you.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #64 on: October 10, 2017, 11:34:25 AM »
My thread is Beauty to Beast and I could use a mentor.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #65 on: October 11, 2017, 03:36:51 AM »
My thread is Beauty to Beast and I could use a mentor.
Keep posting
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #66 on: October 14, 2017, 08:17:03 PM »
I could use a mentor. I'm still on the fence if I'm Standing.
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SS11,11
BD 8/17 W says guy online is her bf, I'm her H but he is he bf
BD 9/17 found EA's multiple OM
BD 10/3/17 W still invloved EA's
BD 10/7/17ILYBINILWY refused to give up affairs
12/8/17 I was removed from home(bogus protection order) no contact with kids or MLCer
1/8/18 1st hearing. No contact with MLCer, supervised visitation with kids.
1/29/18 restrictions on me for kids removed. MLCer instructed to file for divorce. Judge to MLCer:"this is not DV, you need a divorce!"
2/6/18 I filed for divorce
2/12/18 MLCer no-show to hearing. Protection order dismissed.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #67 on: October 15, 2017, 08:41:20 AM »
Sorry forgot the link the first request. I could really use a mentor here.
Still trying...

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9489.0;all
M37
W41
DD20,15
SS11,11
BD 8/17 W says guy online is her bf, I'm her H but he is he bf
BD 9/17 found EA's multiple OM
BD 10/3/17 W still invloved EA's
BD 10/7/17ILYBINILWY refused to give up affairs
12/8/17 I was removed from home(bogus protection order) no contact with kids or MLCer
1/8/18 1st hearing. No contact with MLCer, supervised visitation with kids.
1/29/18 restrictions on me for kids removed. MLCer instructed to file for divorce. Judge to MLCer:"this is not DV, you need a divorce!"
2/6/18 I filed for divorce
2/12/18 MLCer no-show to hearing. Protection order dismissed.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #68 on: October 18, 2017, 06:27:44 AM »
Sorry forgot the link the first request. I could really use a mentor here.
Still trying...

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9489.0;all

OK - sorry for the delay - I was out getting a life (GAL) for the past week.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #69 on: October 25, 2017, 10:14:08 AM »
I would like a mentor!

Need all the help and support I can get!
M-48
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BD - 7/17
ILYBINILWY - 7/17
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Sold home and moved out  - 1/18

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #70 on: October 25, 2017, 10:20:36 AM »
I would like a mentor!

Need all the help and support I can get!
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #71 on: November 01, 2017, 03:31:03 PM »
I would like a mentor. Also I cannot figure out how to create a new post.....maybe I am not allowed?

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #72 on: November 01, 2017, 03:37:10 PM »
Under the line that says "Filter Topics based on Prefix" there are some icons. Below that is says Pages on the left and then on the right there is a tab that says New Topic. Click on that and you will be able to start your own thread and tell us your story.


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #73 on: November 19, 2017, 05:17:15 PM »
I would like a mentor. I posted my story The story of this ride with my MLCer

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #74 on: November 19, 2017, 08:23:41 PM »
I would like a mentor. I posted my story The story of this ride with my MLCer
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #75 on: November 25, 2017, 06:48:52 PM »
I would like a mentor. I feel this will really help me with the emotional rollercoaster I am still on after almost 2 years.
"Grief, I have learned, is just love. It's all the love you want to give but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go."

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #76 on: November 26, 2017, 02:19:39 AM »
I would like a mentor. I feel this will really help me with the emotional rollercoaster I am still on after almost 2 years.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #77 on: December 05, 2017, 03:26:34 PM »
I would like a Mentor please. My story is Let me introduce myself. Thanks!

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #78 on: December 05, 2017, 03:48:40 PM »
I would like a Mentor please. My story is Let me introduce myself. Thanks!
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #79 on: December 06, 2017, 12:38:34 PM »
I desperately need a mentor


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #81 on: December 06, 2017, 02:12:43 PM »
I think I am driving everyone crazy. This journey is not for the faint hearted.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #82 on: December 11, 2017, 03:42:25 AM »
At your convenience may I have a mentor please?
Thank you OP.


Edit - Done - OP
« Last Edit: December 12, 2017, 08:54:11 AM by OldPilot »
M: 47
W: 45
S15 & S11 [from MLCer1]
BD#1: 9/2017
BD#2: 11/2017
no D filed, not seeking action at this time
Separated: 12/2017
OM: EAs up to at least 5 now.  Not sure on PAs.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #83 on: December 21, 2017, 04:29:41 PM »
I would like a mentor
Married 19 years
Together 21 years
M – 51
W (MLC) – 44
D – Now 16 (BD 14)
D – Now 18 (BD 17)
BD1 – Nov 2016 ILYBINILY
EA (OM1) – Nov 2016 to April 2017 (W wanted PA)
BD2 - May 2017 W left without D's
BD3 - July 2017 OM2 (on/off multiple break ups initiated by OM)
Aug 2017 filed for divorce so "I couldn't move away with kids".
March 2018 - Proceeding with divorce.
Ready to move on.


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #85 on: January 01, 2018, 12:20:25 PM »
Hello! I would like to request a mentor!


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #87 on: January 06, 2018, 07:40:49 AM »
I would like a mentor please.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #88 on: January 06, 2018, 07:41:29 AM »
I would like a mentor please.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #89 on: January 09, 2018, 10:06:03 AM »
I think I would like a mentor.
Me 37; H 41
Together 20 years; married 12
No kids, no pets
BD #1 Late October 2017 - H says he feels like he is living with a room mate at times (ILYBINILWY) and has considered separation.
BD #2 12/22/17 - Day after legal separation signed, I find out about OW after H said there wasn't one.

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #90 on: January 09, 2018, 10:31:09 AM »
I think I would like a mentor.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #91 on: January 09, 2018, 06:51:45 PM »
I would love to have a mentor !

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #92 on: January 10, 2018, 05:28:02 AM »
I would love to have a mentor !
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #93 on: January 17, 2018, 03:33:53 PM »
I would like a mentor, thank you
Rella

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #94 on: January 17, 2018, 05:30:59 PM »
I would like a mentor, thank you

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #95 on: January 17, 2018, 05:32:22 PM »
I could absolutely do with a mentor on this crazy journey!  Thanks
Together 25 years
Married 23 years
3 Children: 24,22,20
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Me: 43
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #96 on: January 17, 2018, 05:37:23 PM »
I could absolutely do with a mentor on this crazy journey!  Thanks


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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #97 on: January 21, 2018, 09:55:32 PM »
Hi: 
I think it would be a good thing for me to
get a mentor if possible.

Thanks
IF

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #98 on: January 22, 2018, 05:54:19 AM »
Hi: 
I think it would be a good thing for me to
get a mentor if possible.

Thanks
IF
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #99 on: February 07, 2018, 10:29:15 AM »
I would like a mentor, please.  Thank You.

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« Reply #100 on: February 07, 2018, 10:33:32 AM »
I would like a mentor, please.  Thank You.
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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #101 on: March 14, 2018, 05:09:40 AM »
Hello
I have a thread and would love to have a mentor. Thank you.
Tilt

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #102 on: March 14, 2018, 05:26:14 AM »
I would like a mentor, please.
M-44
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S12, S9, S7
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BD#1- December 22, 2014
BD#2- January 2, 2018

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Re: Want a Mentor
« Reply #103 on: March 14, 2018, 05:39:15 AM »
Hello
I have a thread and would love to have a mentor. Thank you.
Tilt

I would like a mentor, please.

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