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My Story All aboard the crazy train - 9
OP: April 09, 2017, 07:52:22 PM
New thread time 😱

Quick recap - married 18 years. BD 9/13,  moved out 8/14. Ow discovered 7/15. D-14, S-12. H is a boomerang for sure.

Most recent drama - attended funeral with mil this weekend (have to read last posts on my last thread to get caught up with that madness). Spent lots of time together with her. H used the time to take the kids to see ow.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#1: April 09, 2017, 08:13:18 PM
Hi RT,

Following along.   Are you home now?  Boy that was a crazy weekend,  for sure!
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"And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through; how you managed to survive.  You won't even be sure if the storm is really over.  But one thing is certain; when you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in...that's what this storm is all about."

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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#2: April 10, 2017, 10:05:30 AM
Welcome to your new thread Really~

You know after reading your last post (besides being mad as h@ll at your H ) I realized this MIL that left the "coffee mug" out is the same MIL that says such ridiculous things to sweet d.....  honestly you wouldn't expect anything else from her!! 

Sending strength and encouragement !!
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#3: April 10, 2017, 10:25:13 AM
Attaching to the this chapter of the crazy train.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#4: April 10, 2017, 10:37:49 AM
Attaching onto the crazy train!!
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#5: April 10, 2017, 10:59:42 AM
Thanks all for staying on the train with me.

31 - you are right. I can't accept anything else from mil. She is who she is. She did text me last night to make sure I made it home safely. The funny thing is crazy as she is i Know she loves me - she just doesn't know how to show her feelings appropriately.

I got back last night. H texted me to let me know there was pizza at the house. He almost asked me to grab his prescription for him when I said I was stopping at the pharmacy - then he caught himself. He stayed about 2 hours after I got home. We were watching a sporting thing that we always watch together. We chatted about stuff from the funeral and family drama. I didn't mention the lady who wants to come after him obviously 😂😂😂. At that point it was just me and him chatting. D was upstairs S had headphones in.

I noticed he had an overnight bag. I do think it's interesting that he didn't take the kids to his place. He slept in the couch and showered in the guest bathroom. S told me d slept in my bed - it's clear she wasn't giving him the opportunity to sleep in there. S commented that d stayed in my room most of the time. He commented that she's avoiding dad a bit.

D mentioned that ow daughter didn't speak to her. She also commented that ow did not speak to them. S said the same thing. Apparently she didn't meet them in the city. They met her and her kids after to see a movie. D commented that dad is mean to ow. At one point she says he yelled at her - calling her by her name that she uses at work not the name she prefers. Both kids commented at separate times that they don't act very pleasant towards each other.

I just don't get it. I really really don't.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#6: April 10, 2017, 11:37:45 AM
Attaching  :)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#7: April 10, 2017, 01:31:04 PM
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#8: April 10, 2017, 03:54:26 PM
Quote from: Reallytrying on April 10, 2017, 10:59:42 AM
D commented that dad is mean to ow. At one point she says he yelled at her - calling her by her name that she uses at work not the name she prefers. Both kids commented at separate times that they don't act very pleasant towards each other.

I just don't get it. I really really don't.

It is this knowledge that reminds us how lucky we are to be out of their radar during this "trying" time.  Any person that actually wants to be with someone who mistreats them must certainly be damaged in so many ways.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#9: April 10, 2017, 04:53:17 PM
I continue to be fascinated by their "relationship". Just...why? Why would either of them accept what they have? It sounds mechanical.
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That's was some f*cked up sh!t! I don't ever have to do that again!

Why are you holding on to that? How is it serving you?

One does not make the trip to he!! And back without acquiring transferable skills!
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