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#50: April 24, 2017, 09:36:30 AM
Yeah, if nothing else convinces you he is in crisis, THIS most definitely will. Not that this is any kind of excuse. I cannot imagine leaving my S10 alone AT NIGHT. Heck, even at 16-17. It is scary. Sorry you had to deal with that.

But thankfully it is over and you are back and your S knows his mama will never abandon him! Love the concert with your D. How fun--I am going to WWE with S10 next Monday.  8)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#51: April 24, 2017, 09:53:48 AM
RT, that is just so sad to read about.  Who in their right mind would leave their child when they are still awake at that time?  Just goes to show you their heads are not screwed on right.

I'm glad that your son was not fazed.  That is very good.  Otherwise, that could have done a lot of damage.

I guess next time, I would just call a sitter to make sure he will be watched over the way he should be.

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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#52: April 24, 2017, 09:55:51 AM
RT,

Wow.  Just wow.  As if you needed any further confirmation that he was in crisis.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#53: April 24, 2017, 02:14:58 PM
So RT, I have to ask: is there a consequence for this behavior? I would have been absolutely furious had X pulled so,etching like that. I don't care how tired you are...sleep on the couch.

To me is one goes way beyond gift-gate. The welfare of a child is at stake. His child. Personally, I, beginning to think perhaps it's time for you to give him a push. No more foretrucking organges, hanging out at night when he wants to. RT, he is cake eating. He gets to have his family and his girlfriend. He has got to understand that this behavior cannot go on indefinitely.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#54: April 24, 2017, 05:43:37 PM
I'm glad you and D enjoyed the concert together RT.  As for H leaving your S at that time of time, at any time in fact, it is illegal in this country to leave a child home alone until they reach the age of 14 so he would have committed an offense if it was here. 

I don't blame you for being very disappointed in his behaviour.  Honestly, they are so thoughtless and self-absorbed at times!  >:(  I'm glad S wasn't fazed by his behaviour.
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#55: April 25, 2017, 10:54:38 AM
Been there.  I took D to the movies and S11 was hanging out with H at his place. When we got home from the movies at 10:00 every light in the house was on and S was home by himself frantic and sacred. Really? I could not believe that H just dumped him at home all alone.   >:( 
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#56: April 29, 2017, 05:22:24 PM
Can't believe it's been a week since I posted. Not much going on in MLC world but I've been super busy otherwise. It's the end of the semester and I am buried in grading. D was sick again this week- just a stomach virus. She missed school from Monday afternoon - finally going back yesterday. Her doctor note accidentally said she could come back to school Monday so the school made me come get her 😱  Poor thing she was so tired of being home so she ended up coming to work with me.

I was supposed to run in a 5k today but the doc wants me to see a cardiologist after last weekend's episode in the gym. I can't get an appointment until Monday and my mom begged me not to run into I've been checked out. My friend and I walked and had a blast. It was like a party at the finish line.

Thankfully h continues to be responsible when it comes to taking s to all his sports and practices - he hasn't missed a Friday night practice yet. I was grateful because it allowed me to relax a bit last night.

Now I just have to really get working on my grading or I'll be in serious trouble 😱
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#57: April 29, 2017, 05:32:41 PM
It is better to be safe than to risk your health and walking was a great compromise :)

Sorry to hear that D is sick again. Poor thing cannot seem to cut a break.  :( 

Grading - what is that??? LOL   ::)
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#58: April 30, 2017, 07:52:22 AM
Sorry to hear about the impending doctor visit but glad you did the race and walked.

I'm with MD....what's grading??? Lol.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#59: May 01, 2017, 03:13:03 PM
Quick update - the cardiologist says he didn't see anything alarming on exam today and thinks all should be fine. He is running additional tests to be sure but says I'm good to go to exercise 😄  He very carefully reminded me that now that I was older ....😱 

D went on her first date yesterday 😱.  I picked up her little fellow and dropped them off so they could get ice cream and walk around. H picked them up and dropped him home. I was actually very surprised that he was available since he was around Friday night and all day Saturday because S had several games until Saturday night so I expected him to be MIA on Sunday. When he dropped D home we shared a brief moment of awe that our baby was growing up 😢
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