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#30: April 18, 2017, 02:21:30 PM
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Sorry for the loss of your friends GM and the memories it brought back

Hope you take some comfort they are now together and both, I bet, will be batting for you and H from where they are now xx
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#31: April 18, 2017, 02:37:08 PM
Yes, sorry for your loss RT, and that it has caused some triggers and wobbles.  What a lovely picture 1T has painted, that your friends are watching down now and cheering you and H on.   :)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#32: April 18, 2017, 05:42:08 PM
RT - Hang in there. You have so much to deal with right now and I too am feeling the end of the semester. I was just thinking I wished I had someone to come home to that would know what it is like. The end of the semester is brutal and to have to add MLC to the mix - oh, not fun.  :) Work provides with enough meltdowns this time of the semester - students who suddenly decide maybe they should do some work is draining :)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#33: April 19, 2017, 04:47:53 AM
1T & LH - thanks. I have often thought that my friend was up there wishing she could smack H 😄  She was without a doubt the person who knew us the best as a couple. People always refers to her as my best friend but he loves her as much as I did. That was clear at the funeral as he was looking at the pictures. He even came to show me some saying "RT the pictures with best friend are hilarious you need to come see" and then we went together to look at everything. They really were hilarious and I said to her mom best friend would not be amused by some of those and she chuckled. They are a special family who treated me and then by extension H like family when I first moved to America to go to college. Her death on 9/11 remains the only thing that rivaled the pain of BD.

MD - it's a mixture of student foolishness and departmental annoyance that got me on Monday. For a brief period last night I was all caught up with my grading. However, assignments and the dreaded 10 page papers get handed in today so I'm back to grading in all my spare time.

31 - I show up at practice ready to run. I'm in my pants, sports bra, and flip flops 😱  Completely forgot to change into my sneakers. SMH!  I wasn't amused, but I did at least use the time to get some grading done.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#34: April 20, 2017, 03:39:59 AM
Is there such a thing as spare time during this part of the semester? LOL 
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#35: April 20, 2017, 07:44:42 AM
SB, I am sorry the funeral was such a rough time, but when isn't one, especially throwing MLC into the mix. 

I had to laugh when you mentioned your running gear and flip-flops.  Doesn't it just tick you off?  I have done that numerous times.  Finally, I brought an extra pair of everything to work to keep in my drawer ... just in case.

Yuck.  Grading 10-page papers?  I can't imagine.  Why did the teacher make them do a 10-page report??  LOL ;D ;D
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#36: April 20, 2017, 03:26:29 PM
MD - no spare time anymore. Just need to get through the next 2-3 weeks then a bit of a break.

Never - I always grumble about the 10 page paper. Unfortunately the type of class requires a 10-12 page research paper. I'd much rather grade tests any day!!!!!

Thankfully no teaching tomorrow and the kids don't have school. Looking forward to a few days without the alarm clock.
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#37: April 20, 2017, 04:12:33 PM
It is the little things - like no alarm clock to deal with that gets us through these days ;D

I too am grateful that I haven't had to set it most of this week. Although my dog seems to think we are still on some schedule - LOL
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#38: April 22, 2017, 06:12:54 PM
Today was a crazy day. I decided to go to the gym for the first time in forever. I've been working out consistently but at home and running. All was going well and I was actually enjoying the class I was in when I began to feel lightheaded. I eventually sat down and it seems like I either lost consciousness briefly or at least went pretty fuzzy. Next thing there was a fire truck and ambulance and people running in. They talked about transporting me to the ER but then decided against it. My blood pressure and heart rate were a bit high but nothing excited. The paramedic thinks I was just dehydrated. I know that trainer is thinking please don't let that lady set foot in my class again 😱

I texted h once it was over (habit is an interesting thing). He responded instantly asking if I was ok, telling me where Gatorade is in the house, and telling me he thinks I should go to doctor just to make sure all is well. He texted a couple hours later asking if I was still ok. After I got home I lay on the couch for a bit with S hovering over me but all seems to be fine now.

While heading out to walk the dog I noticed that the hedges were all trimmed - they were not when I left for the gym this morning. I texted h to say how odd that was and his reply was "sorry I forgot to mention that I asked them to take care of that". He's not around when they cut the lawn so he didn't just run into them he had to have called. So odd.

He was pretty chatty today and yesterday after relative distance following the funeral. S had a baseball game on Thursday and we sat next to each other but didn't really talk much. Friday he took S to baseball practice - he has really be consistent with being present for s's activities  the last few months. When he dropped S home I was just leaving to pick up D from hanging out. He called a few minutes later to say S had left his baseball glove in the car and did I mind swinging by to pick it up since I pass his place. That always feels weird - to "swing by" his place. I still have never been further than the garage - last couple times I haven't even turned off the car. But I do think it's interesting that the first 2 years he was gone he didn't even give me his address.

I know I shouldn't but sometimes I can't belp myself so I looked and OW hasn't liked his recent posts on IG but she's liked everything SIL has posted. So it's not that shes no longer active. So odd!

In the meantime I have been invited to participate in a program at an Ivy League school this Summer and SIL and I continue to plan her bday trip to Paris & Rome.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#39: April 22, 2017, 09:06:55 PM
Take care of yourself :)
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