[Keep believing]

Has anyone noticed a correlation with mlc and money? It seems to me that as long as they have money they continue . I read somewhere that money gives them power. I beleive this. It seemed as though my h was coming out of the fog a bit , maybe not. But he had been moving closer and such. A divorce was hanging over our heads . An answer was neeeded by lawters , judges , family. H went through with it ,i beleive because of all the pressure.(i think my h thought he could just file for d and it would just sit there on the docket forever) anyhow in the process, i pulled up a 401k that h forgot about. I get half of that . Now that h found out about this ,he seems to have gone back deep in tunnel and took money out of his 401k.  He cant affford his living arrangements. My h hates renting, hates using credit cards, taking money out of a 401 k unheard offor him. I beleve my h is the energizer bunny , he keeps going and going . He has done it all . Moving, hotels, woman, drinknig , spending money, divorce , blaming everyone but himself, order of protection ( pretty sure he coerced ow to do it) lies, lies,lies . So my question.  Again. Do any of you see this corelation with money and mlc lasting longer?

[bluerose]

    I do. My h dont have the expenses he did when he was here being a h and father. He spends his money now on himself, the ow and her kid. When my d12 needs or wants something he is broke.

[Keep believing]

Yes.  But as long as they have the money to spend , they keep going. It seems that way.

[Busy_Bee]

I don't know..in my case during the D, my exH made clear to me that I am not his responsibility anymore ( I have a full time job and was never depend on him) and he only cares for the welfare of our D. OK, fine!
He pays child support every month without delay + extra 10% (his idea). Besides he volunteered to pay D's school fee, which was included in the child support amount by the way. On the top of that he keeps transferring money to my a/c every time he receive bonus ( 4 times/ year).
By the way, every time he go on holidays with OW they share their expenses  I don't know how to explain his actions...only if he is desperately trying to shorten his Reply?   
 

[Roma]

I think it's more they choose not to have responsibilities and with that comes money for others.

Our MLCers are very selfish.

[Whyus]

Wish that I never read this.  When we sell our property W will get a nice big payment!!! Saying that though, I really don't think she will spend too much. She needs a new car and has to furnish her flat... I think she will just keep the rest for the future..... She has also sugested that we put our money in a joint account where neither has access incase we get back together!!! That was months ago though...

[Thunder]

Oh gosh, please don't do that, Whyus. 
I would suggest two separate accounts, unless or until you get back together. 

[1phoenix]

Anyone have a MLCer who says that they are starting to feel emotions again?   

[strongFaith34]

My H avoids me, doesn't talk to me, texts are strictly  pick up and drop off times. He has not wished me Happy Birthday the past 2 years and doesn't even say hello. . He filed for divorce months ago.

Today the kids brought home a mother's day balloon, candle, and cards (kids are 6 and under)..  i texted him a couple hours later that I really appreciate the thoughtful mother's day gifts. H responded a cold reply saying it is not from him, it's from the kids and pretty much not to text him other than kid related drop off, pick up.

Can anyone explain this behavior?

[Shelly7435]

I think the money and MLC go hand in hand.  My H makes good money but is always broke.  We are to split medical expenses for our D.  I sent him a bill.  He could not cover half of it.. and I am still waiting on the rest.  He used to be a good money manager but not now.  I don't think it matters what they make they will spend it... to show the new friends and OW how cool they are.  It cannot last forever.. debt will catch up with them and hopefully reality.


Ocean: I am so sorry.  Cool and distant are the worst..