[BrenM]

Hit him where it hurts Nah....love your style lol

[stillbaffled]

SB - a 5k run 😳 I said I was going to try to make it a happy day, I think a 5k run would make me cry 😂😂

Oh, SHF.....you make me laugh!  That run just made me feel good about me because I hadn't run one in several years and 6 months after he BDed me I was back in shape and doing my thing.  I think if you'd just put your rose colored glasses on you'd find that running a 5K is just about the most fun ever!   

But do let me know what you do to make it a happy day for you. 

[nah]

When asked for an explanation of the charges I said, "it was your anniversary present to me"

He responded, "Fine"

Then I didn't hear from him again for months.

Hey, maybe that's why he's a vanisher.   

[nah]

SB-- I tried running.

It's not fun. 

[Still Half full]

SB -  😊 I've never been outdoorsy, I don't like it to be too hot or too cold and I seem to get bitten by the smallest of insects and then I always react badly to them, as well as prickly heat and frostbite 😂

Since MLC I've spent more time outside, tending to the fish pond that H built and then abandoned !!!! leaving me to learn how to keep the fish ( that I'm ridiculously fond of ) healthy. I really enjoy my little fish 😊. I've also started walking a bit more, my favourite is to stomp through the autumn leaves ( not too hot or too cold 😂)

But running, no, it's not in my make up 😄 I danced until my 30's and have recently started doing pilates, which I love and my body has remembered how to move, so I get that physical activity does really help. 

My luxury is having a private pilates session, it really helps with my medical problem and I feel amazing and about 6 feet tall when I leave, my instructor is amazing and I feel so lucky to have found her. So i might book a double session on my anniversary, that would make me feel strong and very happy ( and very indulgent 😂 )

I'm so impressed that you could do that run and love your attitude to achieving something and doing something positive for you 😊 Keep on running and then celebrate with a huge selection of ice cream 🤓

Nah - I love your sassy attitude 😄

[stillbaffled]

Our first anniversary post BD I took another man for a long weekend on an island and put it on the Leaver's credit card. 

Hey, at least it got him talking to me again (for a few minutes anyways).....   

Okay, that's got to be one of the best anniversary presents post BD, Nah. 

[nah]

Our first anniversary post BD I took another man for a long weekend on an island and put it on the Leaver's credit card. 

Hey, at least it got him talking to me again (for a few minutes anyways).....   

Okay, that's got to be one of the best anniversary presents post BD, Nah. 

Yes and No.

That was in the middle of my self-destructive stage and at the time I would do ANYTHING to get his attention.

Yes, I have some funny stories, and that is one of them but also I can still shed a tear just thinking about how much pain I was in.  I hate knowing that there are so many of you still in that stage.

More than once I thought it would be much easier to just end it.  I'm glad I didn't.

[Tyks]

I too thought it would be easier to end it strange.

[Ro828]

Thank you all for the warm welcome.

Ross,  my anniversary is today as well!   

Funny though I no longer give the day much credence as it's been years the vanisher left and I've been removed from the crazy.  I do recall wondering if he remembered in the early years.  Now, I don't expect him to remember this day at all for the simple reason the crisis fried his brain and his day to day no longer includes me.  I'm fine with that though.  I remember it and I remember it with fondness.  It was a beautiful day.  It's just sad that it ended up being just a day for him.  Now, he has a new anniversary to remember.  Ahhh, such is life....

Rock your new blondness.  I hear they have more fun!

[stillbaffled]

Yes and No.

That was in the middle of my self-destructive stage and at the time I would do ANYTHING to get his attention.

Yes, I have some funny stories, and that is one of them but also I can still shed a tear just thinking about how much pain I was in.  I hate knowing that there are so many of you still in that stage.

More than once I thought it would be much easier to just end it.  I'm glad I didn't.

I went through the extreme pain and sadness during that first year but thankfully the need to get his attention just never happened for me.  I just remember thinking that he truly didn't care if I lived or died.  By the end of the first year some of my spunk had returned, I was off the anti-depressants and the "I'll show you" attitude started to take over. 

I never really remember thinking that I wanted to end it but I DO remember thinking and saying that I wished he had died instead.  That it would have been easier to get through than what he did.