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Mirror-Work Re: Steps to good mind #2
#10: October 11, 2017, 12:05:03 AM


"Go find yourself first so you can find me."
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#11: February 17, 2018, 05:29:20 AM
“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you
don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not
doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or
less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have
problems with our friends or family, we blame the other
person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will
grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive
effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason
and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no
reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you
understand, and you show that you understand, you can
love, and the situation will change”

― Thich Nhat Hanh
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#12: February 17, 2018, 05:43:05 AM


wow if that image doesn't summarise MLC vs MLT I don't know what does.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#13: February 17, 2018, 07:09:01 AM
Hello Al
It's been awhile my friend. Always good too read your stuff.
I just screenshot all your quotes.
All very good my friend
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#14: March 06, 2018, 03:27:53 AM


"Accept what it is. Let go of what was. And have faith what will be."
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#15: March 06, 2018, 03:41:56 AM
LOVE IT, Albatross!
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#16: March 06, 2018, 03:43:08 AM
So True my friend.
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#17: March 06, 2018, 04:10:46 AM
Needed that message today  :)
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#18: April 03, 2018, 07:15:41 AM


YOU CAN'T GET LOST IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING.

This is what I found recently on internet and for me have profound meaning... Specially about MLCers. IMHO they never knew who they really are and where they are going. Apparently they cannot be lost because they never knew who they really are and what is purpose of their life...
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Re: Steps to good mind #2
#19: April 03, 2018, 02:43:31 PM
Yes! Fully agree....
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