[How long ago was BD?]

How long ago was BD?

Less than 6 months?

5 (7.8%)

6-12 months?

6 (9.4%)

1-2 years?

13 (20.3%)

2-3 years?

12 (18.8%)

3-4 years?

8 (12.5%)

4-5 years?

8 (12.5%)

More than 5 years?

12 (18.8%)

Total Members Voted: 64

Voting closed: November 28, 2017, 03:59:21 AM

[Treasur]

Just wanted to give all of us a bit of validation really.
Reading stories here, and thinking about my own situation, it has been an avalanche of change. Most of us have had virtually every bit of our lives turned upside down. Most of us have had life challenges on top of our spouse's behaviour. And MLC adds to the chaos and craziness that we try to navigate through or around. I can't think of one bit of my life or beliefs that has not been under attack or blown up.
And yet, here we all are...supporting strangers and fighting for all the good stuff of life.
If you're having a bad day today....you are amazing and tomorrow is a new day
If you're having an ok day today...you are amazing and ok is good enough
If you're having a good day today...you are amazing and you deserve it.

[FaithWalker]

Just wanted to give all of us a bit of validation really.
Reading stories here, and thinking about my own situation, it has been an avalanche of change. Most of us have had virtually every bit of our lives turned upside down. Most of us have had life challenges on top of our spouse's behaviour. And MLC adds to the chaos and craziness that we try to navigate through or around. I can't think of one bit of my life or beliefs that has not been under attack or blown up.
And yet, here we all are...supporting strangers and fighting for all the good stuff of life.
If you're having a bad day today....you are amazing and tomorrow is a new day
If you're having an ok day today...you are amazing and ok is good enough
If you're having a good day today...you are amazing and you deserve it.

 

Thank you for these kind words, Treasur.  (((HUGS)))

[Helpingme!]

Treasur,
YOU are AMAZING. I hope you know and feel that way!!

[Lastresort]

Just wanted to give all of us a bit of validation really.
Reading stories here, and thinking about my own situation, it has been an avalanche of change. Most of us have had virtually every bit of our lives turned upside down. Most of us have had life challenges on top of our spouse's behaviour. And MLC adds to the chaos and craziness that we try to navigate through or around. I can't think of one bit of my life or beliefs that has not been under attack or blown up.
And yet, here we all are...supporting strangers and fighting for all the good stuff of life.
If you're having a bad day today....you are amazing and tomorrow is a new day
If you're having an ok day today...you are amazing and ok is good enough
If you're having a good day today...you are amazing and you deserve it.

Thank you.  Awesome message. 

[stillbaffled]

Thanks, Treasur. 

It's an okay day for me and you are right - I am amazing and today okay is good enough! 

[Floracat]

Thanks Treasur, bad day today but your post was wonderful and tomorrow is another day. Love and hugs to you X

[Rising Phoenix]

Am 3 yrs from BD. BD Nov 14 said I can’t do this but couldn’t say what but had been depressed and I had an idea there was something in August. Atomic BD 14 Dec 14 when needed space and left! Didn’t see it coming after 27yrs. confirmed ow 27 Dec 14. EA since Aug 14 turned physical. Cycles between escape and avoid including from his kids to severe cake eater with 10 underdone returns but new phase at the minute is complete vanisher and he has filed for divorce. Although have not yet had a reply to my solicitor letter in nearly 5 wks. Nothing!! Kids have had 2 texts in 4 mths.

I cycle but I seem to be angry at present and want to punch his face and give him piece my mind. I cry less. Am 50 in a week sat and he will be nowhere to be seen. I seem to dream about him most nights which I find weird. X

[rosetintedglasses]

I know this was a long time ago but wanted to say how great this is Treasur.

Just wanted to give all of us a bit of validation really.
Reading stories here, and thinking about my own situation, it has been an avalanche of change. Most of us have had virtually every bit of our lives turned upside down. Most of us have had life challenges on top of our spouse's behaviour. And MLC adds to the chaos and craziness that we try to navigate through or around. I can't think of one bit of my life or beliefs that has not been under attack or blown up.
And yet, here we all are...supporting strangers and fighting for all the good stuff of life.
If you're having a bad day today....you are amazing and tomorrow is a new day
If you're having an ok day today...you are amazing and ok is good enough
If you're having a good day today...you are amazing and you deserve it.

And:

Treasur,
YOU are AMAZING. I hope you know and feel that way!!

Also loved this!

Rose 🌹

[Rising Phoenix]

That is so good rose, it needs to be on a newbie thread of some sort. Treasur is spot on.

I read my own post above and it is 18 mths ago and the change in me from that post is amazing. I’m glad I read it. To see how far I have come. Xx

[megogirl]

My BD was October 2016.  I'm counting the days until the 3-year mark.

And thank you for the shout Treasur - it was priceless!