[nah]

I agree, I had a clinging boomerang for 3 yrs then vanished and changing his no so ow can control every aspect. Even his children not allowed it. H did say several times that got him self in a corner and didnt know how to get out.

Non existent  divorce for 3 yrs then vanished and files. Another giant coward who got himself stuck xx

RP, I feel you have a special case (lucky you  ) where your husband was forced to change "types" because of his insecure ow (well, all ow's are insecure but she might wear the crown).  I feel (and remember this is just my opinion) that your husband in his heart wants to be more of a clinger or a boomerang but she forced his hand.

Their time together must be a special place of insecurities above all others, him wondering if he should really be with his real family, and her wondering if that's what he is thinking.  So he has to play the game to pacify her and pretend that he's not obsessed about what he really and truly is obsessed about... his family.  Each one of them must carefully pick their words, their actions, their uncomfortable silences....

Can you hear the bomb ticking???

Just a gut feeling.

[Rising Phoenix]

I hope so nah. I hope it sounds just like the crocodile after Captain Hook in Peter Pan that gets louder and louder and captain hooks nervous tick gets more and more visible 😂😂

[Ro828]

I must say that I really appreciate this post topic.  At this stage in the game it seems like it's the only one I can participate in.

I'll be approaching another Vanisher anniversary in a few days.  Although my life is full it still boggles my mind how someone that you built a life with can easily discard you as though you never existed.  I've come to accept that this will be the thorn in my side and that I will never have answers.

I do wonder if my X got in so deep that he feels so humiliated and ashamed that even if he wanted to return he just can't so he makes the best of his situation.  My X affaired down to the extreme.  He ran off to be the knight in shining armor to a woman who was riddled with issues.  He believed he could change her.  I wonder if he did and if he's happier or does he regret his choices.   

That's the insidious part of having a true vanisher, I'll never know the truth but live with the assumption he must be happier as he has never reached out.  It can be a hard pill to swallow.

[bluerose]

    Not knowing the truth is one of most painful and hardest part.

[Tyks]

   That's the insidious part of having a true vanisher, I'll never know the truth but live with the assumption he must be happier as he has never reached out.  It can be a hard pill to swallow.   

True dat!!

Firetrucking stupid !!

[Shocked]

Thanks for your comments. One other thought I had about the “same lane” line. If it’s so hard to stay in the same lane with your wife why can he stay in the same lane with the ow? Or is he?

[nah]

Because he thought it would be different.

[stillbaffled]

Thanks for your comments. One other thought I had about the “same lane” line. If it’s so hard to stay in the same lane with your wife why can he stay in the same lane with the ow? Or is he?

Also, because he has to save face and has too much pride to admit that he screwed up big time.  The old "I made my bed, not I have to lie in it" mantra.  Time will tell how long these MLCers can stay in the same lane. 

Meanwhile, we'll have been living life and moving along on the journey that is before us. 

How's the job going, Shocked? 

[Rising Phoenix]

I was wondering what other vanishes have said as they leave to vanish?

H lines were
Ilybinilwy
Not my life anymore
Ow listened and you didn’t
Too much water under the bridge
It’s easy at ow and quiet ( no kids)
( my personal favourite) you decorated and doesn’t feel like my home as not my stamp on n it! ( not that he ever decorated our home but has done ow Home from top to bottom)
Xx

[Tyks]

The house wasn't clean enough

Do you know how many affairs I could've had over the years? I don't wanna be that guy (this was the day before I found the emails)

We are not on the same page! ( he was on ow's page)

I don't feel like I think i should feel

I feel nothing

You're letting yourself go. I'm not attracted to you anymore

Oh man so many more, but i am sure someone else will come along and list them bc I believe it is all script lol