[CallingHeart]

Ms M, I'm glad to hear he is stepping up for his S.  I remember the stories of his absence with y'alls S.  That's as much of a heartbreak as BD if you ask me.  I just hope the MLC handbook doesn't get passed down to a 3rd generation.  I know you're there to teach your son otherwise!  Pleasee do.  MLC seems to be genetically predisposed.

Monty - you should surprise your H and change anyway. 

I guess when its all said and done we all have to change. as long as we make it for the better, we'll be OK

I've always had a gut feeling that my ghost will come around one day. When/if it happens, who knows, it's just a gut feel. 
So I was chatting with my mom and BFF over the holidays (they always bring up the ghost when we get to talking.... not sure why... I think they're afraid of when the ghost comes around) Anyway, I told them I know he will come around some day, I just don't know how I'd handle it.  They kept denying it would happen.  I said, do you know how I KNOW it will?   (they look at me like I have a 3rd eye).  I said, because of who I am.  Look who we're talking about (me).  I'm WORTH coming back around for !!   LOL LOL LOL.  They didn't know what to say because they know it too     

[nah]

"all life is suffering, being an adult sucks and it's miserable and depressing"....

What?!?  He's not dancing in the streets every day with his super awesome shiny new life? 

Isn't that why he ran away?  Wasn't it because YOU suck, and all he needed to do to be happy was run away form you?

I know how you feel MsM...

The selfless part of us wants them to be happy, we loved these men with everything we had and if we truly loved them, we should want them to be happy, right?

But.... for me anyways, I'm fire trucking human, and big part of me wants to know that it wasn't me, it was him, and he deserves to wallow in the sh!t he created because he didn't only hurt me, he hurt OUR family. 

@sshats.

[nah]

I've always had a gut feeling that my ghost will come around one day. When/if it happens, who knows, it's just a gut feel. 

I think you're right Calling. 

[Passiflora]

But.... for me anyways, I'm fire trucking human, and big part of me wants to know that it wasn't me, it was him, and he deserves to wallow in the sh!t he created because he didn't only hurt me, he hurt OUR family. 
@sshats.

LOL….you and me both Nah!

2 other things.

Am I the only one without a sound or sight of XH in 3,5 years? Not that I miss the abuse, I just think it's strange behavior but on the other hand with that behavior I know it's not me who is the crazy one! 

Has anyone heard anything from Lawprofessor, Pixie etc?

Hugs

[nah]

Am I the only one without a sound or sight of XH in 3,5 years? Not that I miss the abuse, I just think it's strange behavior but on the other hand with that behavior I know it's not me who is the crazy one! 

There are others who have gone at least that long, and longer.  Now you have sons, right?  Does your xh have any contact with either one of them?

Has anyone heard anything from Lawprofessor, Pixie etc?

I don't know about Pixie but I do know we lost a few good ones awhile back (maybe about a year?) when there was a controversy on a thread.  Haven't heard from LP, Airmid, or Stayed since... 

[Passiflora]

There are others who have gone at least that long, and longer.  Now you have sons, right?  Does your xh have any contact with either one of them?

Yes, I do. Oldest has no relationship with his father, youngest a tiny link to his father but I think that link is soon nothing also. Youngest son has started to grasp the full picture of what his father has done and are doing now.

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I don't know about Pixie but I do know we lost a few good ones awhile back (maybe about a year?) when there was a controversy on a thread.  Haven't heard from LP, Airmid, or Stayed since... 
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Oh Airmid and Stayed, I miss those 2 also!

Hugs

[nah]

Just something I have noticed over the years,... and of course with these crazy MLCers there are ALWAYS exceptions....

But if there is still some link... either kids, in-laws, mutual friends, etc., even if it’s small....

Those seem to me the most likely to appear again.

[Treasur]

Ah well, unless Louis the cat has super powers...I'm f**ked then  ....or so I would have said before Watchgate LOL

[nah]

Ah well, unless Louis the cat has super powers...I'm f**ked then  ....or so I would have said before Watchgate LOL

Oh see that?  But what about the aunt or other in-laws... do you talk to any of them?

[Treasur]

Nope - aunt who was my friend pre-H has cut me dead. His R with his family was always one of trying to keep them far away from him/us as possible...his aunt pressured him/us to do big family events, I kept things like Xmas card links going..his grandmother died pre-BD which was a shared link with us as we were very involved in her care and he cut all etc with our old friends and his own. I've heard nothing from any of his family since Jan 16. It's as if I never existed at all for him or any of his family. I think he said he was talking to his F a bit more (who hated me before), that his M was 'the same' and his R with his aunt has got more distant because both of them are given to avoiding elephants in the room!