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Offline What now

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My Story Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #20 on: February 20, 2019, 10:15:03 PM »
Im so sorry for your loss and I'm so sorry for the loss for your daughter. I have no words. Big hugs xx
BD#1 August 2015 - i think i should move out and carry on as we are because i love you but it would work better
BD#2 December 2016 - moved out
ow- 19 years his junior with 3 young kids

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #21 on: February 20, 2019, 10:27:31 PM »
Dear Bitty

I am so sorry for your loss, and for all the complication that goes along with it for you and your daughter. As Phoenix said, you were gracious and compassionate and I hope the universe and your own support systems covers you and your daughter with the same.
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD)
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BD Oct 15. OW since Apr 16?
H filed Jan 17. Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #22 on: February 20, 2019, 10:46:11 PM »
I am sorry for your loss Bitty, I cannot even start to imagine what you, your D and Step Son are going through.
Extending your Hand to the OW and saying "I'm sorry for your loss." is pure class and Shows what a wonderful human being you must be.
Hugs
Married - 19,5 Years pre BD
Together - 21,5 Years
Me: 45
W: 45 (Acts 25)
BD 1: 10.01.2017
BD 2: 24.02.2017 OM 28 (now 30) Trainings partner. W is actually getting People to accept them.
2 Sons - 19 & 21
1 Dogs and a cat.
Own home . Sold!
Divorce Date 21.08.2018
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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #23 on: February 21, 2019, 03:50:15 AM »
Oh Bitty, I am so very sorry to hear about your H.  You and your daughter are in my prayers.

Hugs
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #24 on: February 21, 2019, 04:36:55 AM »
I am so very sorry.
Married 8 years at BD, together 16.
BD March 2015
H moved out July 2015
I found out about OW March 2016 (She went to high school with H, long distance EA since September 2014, became PA November 2015)
H moved 1100 miles to live with OW June 2016
I was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer June 2017
H became a vanisher

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #25 on: February 21, 2019, 05:53:39 AM »
I am so very sorry Bitty. You and your sweet D are in my prayers.
Me 47
H 46
S12
BD 5/16
H Moved out 6/16
OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #26 on: February 21, 2019, 06:08:51 AM »
Bitty, I'm so sorry to hear about your H.  :'(
Me: 47 (43 at BD1)
H: 53 (48 at BD1)
D: 10 (6 at BD1)
Met in 1995, married since 2000
BD 1: August 2014
BD 2: October 2015, H moved abroad
August 2018: Received divorce papers in the mail unexpectedly

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #27 on: February 21, 2019, 06:25:10 AM »
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you and your family as you work through these difficult days

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #28 on: February 21, 2019, 06:33:16 AM »
Bitty,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May God give you peace and strength to help your daughter and step son as you navigate this time of loss and grief.
M 57
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S 27
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D 24
BD 13 Dec 2010
Divorced 27 Feb 2015 (30 years marriage)

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11

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Re: Bitty's Husband Has Passed Away
« Reply #29 on: February 21, 2019, 07:20:45 AM »
Dear Bitty,

I am so sorry for your, your daughter and step son's loss.

You're a model of grace and compassion.

Hugs
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)

 

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